I actually can’t stand it anymore. Every day I lose further hope. I hate being a woman in this world, where everything women do is criticized or sexualized. I encounter so many perverts and creeps online and in the real world. I hate that I was born into this world as a woman. Our world is beautiful and there are so many places I’d love to go alone, but I can’t. Because I’m a woman. I have to live on edge constantly. If I reject a man’s advances, he might be fine and handle it nicely. Or he could murder me. I am tired of being a woman
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i resonate with this deeply. we live in fear, it’s so unsafe. and we that are victims to mens crimes constantly blamed and mocked and ridiculed.
Both genders face a lot of things, can’t hate yourself for it, just have to be cautious, even your own gender can be after you in ways you don’t know.
Yes it’s more dangerous to be a woman because you’re more vulnerable. But constant fear of men just murdering you seems a bit unhealthy. You should talk to a therapist about anxiety.
Being a woman does suck, especially earlier on, and especially for a woman with spirit, but it gets better as you get older. Learning self defense and getting a gun also helps. You can do all those things you want, you just have to be more careful.
I will also say, connecting with people helps with the living on edge.
I used to get catcalled by a frat house walking home in the dark and it scared the hell out of me. There were always 3-4 guys and I was acutely aware that they could overpower me if the felt like it. I decided to walk over there in the daylight when I let safer, knocked on the door, and confronted them about it. I said “Hi, I know you probably don’t mean anything by it, but will you please stop catcalling me. It’s really scary, especially at night.” They immediately apologized, we had a little bit of a conversation, and they invited me to hang out anytime I felt like it. The next time I walked past, somebody catcalled me, and another guy told him to shut up and called out an apology. I never got harassed again for the following two years I lived on their street and felt safe as soon as I got to the street because I knew there were people there looking out for me.
Not to say this is always the way it will go, but part of being safe when you’re alone is learning to find safe people around you. You are never truly alone, no matter where you travel, so it’s key to be able to identify and connect with people who will have your back and that can’t happen if you’re blanket terrified of everyone. It sucks if being independent is a point of pride for you, but 1. having good men around you is an incredibly effective way to deflect creeps and 2. nobody is truly independent, we’re all interconnected in some way.
Same. I’m tired of being sexualized and seen as an incubator. I’m tired of my family joking about me getting raped or getting pregnant. It disgusts me. They just won’t accept I don’t want a man.
This is so crazy bc I was telling my friend the same thing a few days ago. He was telling me that when I’m up late at night I should go for a walk to burn some energy and I’m like ????? Being a man must be so nice😭 I fear going on walks during THE DAY, I pretty much would never at night. And I love nature, I love doing things by myself but I never feel safe doing them. Even just taking public transportation like I’m constantly on edge