I hate how male victims of sexual harrasment are treated by society as a whole.

Like, it’s so fucking gross and infuriating…

On one side, you have idiots who comment “Lucky boy” on boys getting raped by teachers (in this case, those comments tend to be men).

However, the mistreatment of malevictms goes beyond those comments. There’s another type of comment they recieve that people don’t call out enough:

“Oh, now you understand what women go through.”

It’s ironic. Conversations around male victims get shut down pretty quickly on the fucking notion that the try to “dismiss women’s issues” or that “they are the same men who celebrate when teachr rape their students”(Which is a fucking lie, by the way. Newsflash, men aren’t a fucking monolith). So why. The. FUCK. Do so many people see a man getting harrassed and their first reaction is making it about women?! Don’t you see the hipocrisy????(Hell, I once saw a post of a woman talking about being harrassed on a nudist beach and then aother woman posted that at first she thought OP was a man and her first thought was “finally a man understans what we go through!”. Like, you thought a man was being harrassed and you first thought was CELEBRATING IT?!DO YOU FUCKING LISTEN TO YOURSELF????). A study in UK sowed that 71% of men expierenced sexual victimization by a woman in their lifetime. 71 FUCKING PERCENT. So, how about we recognize Sexual harrasment as something MEN go through too, huh?! Because way too many people still think it rarely ever happens and that it should be the perfect time to make a lesson about how women have it worse.

Oh, and another I LOATHE “Straight men understand consent in gay bars”. Hey, as a gay dude: I am not some kind of sexual weapon for you to own the straights with. Also, I fucking hate that it paints Male-on-male harrasment in a POSITIVE light. “Oh, who cares if a gay dude harrases a straight man. He’s just learning what women go through.” Like, no joke, I have seen a gay creep that makesme want to use the F slur derogatorilly use that as a justification to catcall straight men. And hey, not fun fact: Harrasment from straight women towards gay men in gay bars is a common issue too! So, a phrase that’s supposedly meant to bring awareness about sexual harrasment downplays/justifies Male-On-Male SH and invisibilizes Female-on-Male SH. Great fucking job y’all!

And also, FUCK anybody that thinks me being harrassed is “not as bad”. Like, just because on average me are stronger shouldn’t fucking mean their boundaries and autonomy shouldn’t be as respected. And no, a man harrassing another man is not automatically worse than a woman harrassing a man. Both are equaly awful and they should be treated with the same severity. There’s more to SH than physical strength. There’s mental abuse, emotional abuse, power imbalances, etc. (And I assire you, a good bunch of the women who try to convince you women harrassing me is not that bad just want to justify groping men amd receiving no consequences about it. And the men who say are nothing but useful idiots.)

And then there’s worse things like Mary P Kunt, who decided to fuck male victims over by decreting that legally a rape victim only counts as one if the victim is penetrated aginst their will. Or the groups that adamantly OPPOSE male victims getting recognized by the law. Like seriously, shit is pretty fucked.

INSTANT EDIT: I forgot to add things.

• PLEASE, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD DON’T TURN THIS INTO A GENDER WAR!! No, this problem isn’t just men’s fault. And no, it isn’t just women’s fault either. Individual women and men contribute to this issue. Some of the shit I mentioned I have seen done by mostly men, other shit mostly women. If you try to turn this whole issue into an excuse to bash on either half of the population, then tbh you mostlikely don’t actually care about it in the first place.

• Fortunately, I haven’t been sexually harrassed personally. But the treatment of male victims fucking terrifies me and I needed to vent.

• Maybe instead of “Now you understand what women go through”, try saying “I understand what you’ve gone through, and I am sorry it happened to you”. It still keeps the point that you have bee harrassed as well WHILE showing sympathy and comfort to the victim.