Girls and women have thrown themselves at me and put me in situations to “make a move” more times then I can count but I’ve done almost nothing.
In those moments I either freeze up or get in my head that I’m actually not allowed to do stuff like this and then I do nothing.
I almost always regret it later.
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so real bro.
Maybe it’s a condition like aboulomania or decision paralysis
Bro this is soo real😭 I was at aldi’s 2 weeks ago and this attractive girl kept looking at me and she passed me in the isle and said “we have the same stuff in our carts, meats, fruits and energy drinks” and I replied “yeah, we do haha” and moved on. On my drive back home it hit me that she was probably trying to flirt w me and I gave her a lame ass reply. Still regretting it I swear.
I use to be the same actually. The only reason I overcame it was because I ended up sleeping in the same bed with one of my female friends one night we and some other friends were hanging out.
Come to find out the reason why I was always hesitant was cause I watched a lot of porn, and thought my size was very small. That wasn’t the case at all. I’ve been with a few people and none of them have had an issue with my size from what I’m aware of.
There may be a deeper reason for why you feel this way all the time, so you need to figure out what it is first and work on it.
LMFAO I used to be like this before I got engaged. I think mine is different though because I wouldn’t realize a guy was hitting on me because I’m gay.
Should feel proud of yourself instead of feeling bad because in todays age chit, I’d be scared to be getting it even if it’s thrown at me women are grimey
I feel gatekept when I’m called innocent and pure
omg yes!
I am the same way, I don’t know why but I just freeze up when they’re making a move or in my mind I think ‘they’re just being kind, that’s all. don’t overthink it’.
Short story – I remember this one girl who I was talking to kept throwing obvious signs that she was into me. Like at one point she even said “I actually like you” and I didn’t make a move. To this day I have no idea why and regret it. And I know some of you will be like “how dense are you?!”, she even flashed me once to see my reaction(she just showed her bra) and I got flustered. I guess I am too innocent or just dumb to notice the huge signs.
Anyways, to that girl. If you somehow found this and know it’s you I am talking about, I hope you are doing well.
HEY YOU, I’M IN THIS POST AND I DO NOT CONSENT
You and me, both.
I’m worse than you, I was in the car with a girl and she started kissing my neck and touching my leg and I REALLY STUPID I didn’t do anything, the light bulb went on for me where this is going but I actually took FREEZE and after that I said something stupid and took her home….
Sometimes I’m amazed at how stupid I am.
I’m no psychologist but maybe work on your confidence. You’d be surprised how far confidence can take you with women.
This has nothing to do with you but this made me realize that the guy I’m talking to rn probably doesn’t think I’m flirting with him
“I hate that I’m not corrupted and don’t understand every dirty joke.”
Oh you guys are adorable 😂
Oh you’re not alone. During my college years I was named #1 oblivious member of the anime club because I didn’t clock anyone trying to flirt with me. If you didn’t tell me out right I wouldn’t pick it up until like 2 weeks later.
Though jokes on everyone turns out I’m Ace and explains a lot mostly because I clock other things as interesting and flirting.
Sincerely, a girl
Turns out my best friend was the same. Also oblivious
She literally went on a date and came back with “i don’t get it. That’s flirting?”
Same. Some of the near misses have haunted me for 20+ years
I honestly wish I could relate, makes life a hell of a lot easier