Okay, I hate it when people try to be nice about something that they don’t like. If I ask you for your opinion on my hair or whatever, I want an honest opinion, not for you to straight up lie to me, even if you are trying to be nice. If I say “Dose my hair look okay”, I don’t want you to say “yeah”, if you don’t like it. Say “(whatever it is) is off” I’ll appreciate it! My mom will ask me if her hair looks okay, and I’ll tell her if there is something to change to make it better. Please answer my question honestly
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“Your hair looks like shit. Why are you even trying that style?”
OP the next day: I hate it when people are honest.
what makes you think they’re lying?
I find if you insult someone before asking them questions like this it’s much better and you get a lot more honesty.
You: If I say “Dose my hair look okay”… Please answer my question honestly
Then try asking “honestly, does my hair look ok.” If you want a direct answer, ask for that in the question then.
Well i mean yea if your hair looks awful I’m not going to let you go about your day as if it doesn’t, but if you are sporting a particular cut that i don’t personally care for then I’m going to say you look fine because I’m not a hater. Now if you wanted to ask me something like, “How would you do this hairstyle?” That would make room for suggestions without me feeling like an ass. Here’s my upvote because i’m not loving this opinion.
Everyone likes different things. Opinions are very subjective
The distinction here is wanting reassurance vs wanting advice.
Lots of people ask “Does my hair look good” “Does this make me look fat?” “Does the food taste good?” because they are just a bit anxious and need a bit of a boost. They know the answer and are just second guessing themselves because of stress or worry or pressure.
And other people like you are looking for genuine constructive criticism rather than reassurance.
Without being close to the person it is impossible to know what they want and giving someone reassurance is always a much safer answer than constructive criticism.
Because saying that to my wife makes a 2 second conversation into a daylong thing.
Have you considered that people may actually not lie…?
I wish your opinion is was more main stream. People who constantly gas you up really could not give a crap about you.
May those kinds of ‘friendships’ never find me. I’m extremely greatful to have friends and family who keep me in check and call me out if need be and vice versa. It’s a powerful way to put the focus on self improvement and grow as a person. People who have been enabled their whole lives are the most insufferable people in existence.
This is why I ask “Do you want my honest opinion or do you want me to hype you up? Cause I can do either”
Usually I can tell what people want though.
This is also why I dont ask people what they think 😆
Yeah I get around this by just stating what I see without opinion. Funny how people hear what they want.
Ugly baby? “Oh you have a baby!”
Ugly hair? “Your hair is up instead of down today.”
Ugly outfit? “Yup those are clothes.”
Works a lot. It’s weird. Now I just do it to test my theory.
You and your hair will never amount to anything…. happy