I often see ppl say or comment this under ppl complaining about daily things but also very valid issues.
If that is your standard, then how can we talk about anything?
I’m from the west and very aware that 90% of my problems are luxury problems, does that mean they can’t be openly discussed anymore?
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They don’t want you to feel better or be grateful. They want you to shut up when they say this
I personally feel like the reason for saying it isn’t to undermine how you feel, but to help you look at it in a healthier perspective. I understand that there is a trend of “toxic positivity” that people don’t like, but often the difference between being happy and depressed is how you look at, and analyze your life.
I don’t think this is that unpopular. Downplaying someone’s issues by saying someone else has it worse fixes absolutely nothing and is just kinda dickish
In general, complaining is frowned upon. Everyone is dealing with shit in their lives. Whether at home, at work, health issues, financial, etc. we all deal with it.
It feels good to vent. I think it’s pretty much human nature to do so, but it’s not often well received. Unless you are going through something extremely unique or terrible, people aren’t going to feel bad for you because again, we’ve all got shit going on.
respond with: “if i can’t complain because someone has it worse, then by that logic, in the whole world only one person is allowed to complain at a time”
Sure, it could be worse.
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I’m fine with people complaining and discussing, I have a problem with people trying to solve their luxury problems through law.
This sounds like a bit of a first world problem.
It’s relative privation fallacy.
I felt exactly like this until I experienced “ppl dying” and “worse things that go on in the world.”
Saying someone shouldn’t be sad because someone else may have it WORSE is no different than saying someone shouldn’t be happy because someone else might have it BETTER.
Same. There’s no need to minimize what you and others are going through or engage in comparative suffering.
It’s not that they can’t be discussed, people discuss all sorts of minor things all the time. They complain about their boss, about Trump, about their aching foot, about the traffic, etc. That’s all totally normal. When people say “there are worse things going on” they are either trying to help you feel better about your situation, or they are explaining why they aren’t as worked up about the issue as you are. The world has a million problems and we don’t have the mental space or capacity to address each one of them, we have to focus on the most important and ideally root causes rather than the symptoms.
There is always something to be grateful for. Whenever I catch myself complaining I feel myself ignoring all of the things that are going great in my life. I got food to eat, I have money in my account, I have a house, a supportive family, good friends, breath. Way too many blessings to complain about anything. Nippsey Hussle had a quote I really like, “no matter where I’m at in life, I’m either doing better or worse than someone else.”
Instead of saying, “there are worse things going on in the world” I think a better way to phrase it is to think about all the good currently in your life. It helps you get out of that low state of thinking. When you focus on the bad and the negative you’ll get more negative, but when you focus on the good in every situation then you’ll be blessed with more good.
Everyone in life is going through something. People really don’t wanna hear you complain.
Two words: Relative Privation. It’s a fallacy a lot of people love to use to shut others up.
These people just feel like this 🧐 💅 after saying that.
Someone else’s suffering does not, with few exceptions, make me happier or reduce my problems
Yes, everyone is dying. Everyone is always dying — that has never changed. The moment you were born, you began dying.