I hate my birthday/when it is and am kinda starting to resent my family. It’s 5 days after Christmas and with it being so close to holidays even just doing family dinner at my parents just finding a date feels like an inconvenience. Forget wanting to plan anything then people just won’t care what I want to do and make all these suggestions that are just what they want and try to basically plan something for my birthday for themselves not me. Next year I’m turning 40 and because picking dates is such an ordeal I sent a group text last Friday that I wanted to do a weekend getaway and gave a few ideas. I wasn’t expecting it to be planned by now but nobody has really even responded but they have plenty of time to text about and plan my niece’s birthday. With how things have gone in the past I should’ve known better than to think anyone would care.
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Yeah, I also hate my birthday. Nobody ever forgets it. 😐
I’ve got one brother on the 19th and one on the 31st, and it sucks all around.
Celebrating on your half birthday might be more fun and easier to plan at the end of July and you’d have a wider range of activities
I don’t always even hear from my own brother on my birthday. The plans I proposed are less than a week old so I didn’t expect everything to be planned out by now but don’t ghost either but if I say anything I don’t want people to go with it because they feel like they have to vs because they want to.
Have an unbirthday or half birthday party 6 months later. Summery pool party!
I feel the same way. Too many disappointments and let downs, plus I just have bad birthday luck (thanks hale bopp 🖕🏻) so I have far more dread than excitement heading towards the date. The only time it went well was when I just planned a getaway trip for two and went away for a few days with my husband. Just something calm, fun and low key with those you know will actually show up.
What if you just made plans that you would enjoy and shared them with whoever wants to join? Less pressure on it, and as long as you have a good time to em who cares if 20 friends show up or only 3? Plus you then know who actually cares and there’s your core circle. I am sorry you’re struggling with this, one of the harsher parts of adulthood I’ve encountered myself is that nobody gives a shit about you or your feelings. Do what you can to make it a happy day for you and screw everyone else!