Context: when I was 8 my mum got a new boyfriend. He was a PIECE OF SHIT. 10 years of abuse from this spineless scum bag before I left home. Now my mum has issues, but she does her best. But when they were together they both sucked but he would abuse her too… Actually the only one who didn’t get the abuse was my sister. Eventually I left and they broke up. My brother was born not long after they got together. Growing up everyone in that household bullied me bad. My brother was encouraged from a young age to treat me like shit.
Brother is 18 now. He’s a drug user, a thug, and all round lowlife. And we have never really had a relationship. I have been there when needed, he’s ended up in hospital a lot, and I have been there every time. Even saved him from being beaten up by other thugs a few times. But I just can’t stand him.
He’s recently started texting me and calling me telling me he values family, and he’s depressed and he wants me to be a big brother to him. I’d love to really, but i have this disgust towards him. He’s 18, drunk all the time. Steals shit… If you live in the UK you know what a roadman is like… Yeah that.
He’s supposed to stay at my house tonight as he’s insisted he helps me move house tomorrow… Any advise on not hating him? Or avoiding family who just won’t leave you alone?
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Maybe he needs a way out, maybe he just needs to be taught how to leave that life. Has he tried to do any of that?
If so maybe you both hate his lifestyle
Otherwise if you want to avoid him then you could move away or start drying up in conversations and just try telling him you can’t help him anymore and he should leave you alone