I hated my wedding day

Don’t get me wrong I love my husband, he’s everything to me. I just want you all to know that. It’s just since I was a little girl I’ve always dreamed of a woods fairytale type wedding in the forest. Or in a clearing. I wanted everything to be whimsical. I wanted the food to be bbq because I love bbq. I wanted a blush wedding dress and for all my bridesmaids to wear a sage green. I wanted my honeymoon to be in Italy where my family is from. My husband is in the military so I was ok with a courthouse thing then have the wedding of my dreams afterward. He was ok with it and said he didn’t really care how it looked and that I had full control over everything. Then he told his mom. Then his mom got us a venue without asking me or him first and I said ok to be nice. I never saw the venue until the day of my wedding. I didn’t know where it was at and she said it was a surprise. I was getting really nervous at this point but I didn’t want to seem bratty to his family so I let them help. My husband wanted to wear his dress blues to our wedding and I said that would be perfect. His mom and aunt told me having my bridesmaids wearing green would be tacky. So I changed it to pink to match my dress. Then I went dress shopping and found this gorgeous sparkly white and pink dress of my dreams. They helped me pick out my flowers and that was it. The only things I knew what was happening was the food, the cake and the flowers I was holding. Nothing else. They insisted it was a surprise. So I allowed it, I had hoped they would have asked me about details because I’m a very detail oriented person, if I don’t like it I’m gonna tell you.
So get this, day of my wedding comes and I’m taken to this venue that’s on the edge of the lake. Don’t get me wrong it was beautiful but I hated it so much. Anything to do with water for my venue wasn’t even on my list if I couldn’t have a woodsy wedding I hated it so much. It was too late to say anything at that point about it though. Then came the decor. Let me tell you. It was pink and blue. I wanted purples and greens and blues and reds and oranges. I wanted it to be alive with flowers and fairy lights and little logs everywhere. I wanted whimsical and it looked like a gender reveal. I hated it so much. Then his aunt was starting to be super mean and rude to me. I was just asking why this was here or this was there because it was my wedding and I didn’t like it. She then had me iron out all the table clothes which wasn’t hard but I didn’t know I was gonna be doing that if I did I would’ve been there earlier because it made me late to my dress and makeup thing. The whole wedding happens and it was magical until I turned to walk back down with my now husband and his whole family took up the entire front row and pushed my entire family to the back. When I asked about seating a day before his mom told me she had it all figured it and not to worry about it. I was pissed beyond being mad. I felt like my wedding day was getting ruined. Once we all went back inside everyone was asking me if I was pregnant which just made me self conscious because I lost 20 lbs for the wedding but I still looked a little chubby. So I was super self conscious and constantly had to tell everyone I wasn’t pregnant. I felt humiliated. I wanted fun and dancing and games and there wasn’t any of that. After we ate everyone just start packing up and I was so disappointed. My wedding day wasn’t anything I hoped or wanted. At least I had my honeymoon with my husband.

The honeymoon was at his grandma and grandpas cabin about an hour away and I was ok with that I love being outside and looking around and it was on a lake so we fished and everything but that thing is my husband was stationed out across the county and everyone was calling him the entire time we were on our honeymoon. I didn’t mind it at first but it got super annoying like I’m trying to have fun sexy time with my now husband but he has to call his grandma back. Then the last day of our honeymoon his family decided to come up and have this big bbq with us. I was pissed. I just wanted us, no one else. Apparently they had called him and he said it was fine without evening asking me. I told him after I was very upset that his family couldn’t leave us alone the whole time.
I hope none of this sounds bratty. When you have a version of how you want things, that you’re ok with waiting for and it doesn’t happen you’re disappointed.
((My husband said we can renew our vows 20 years from now because he feels bad that he couldn’t give me what I wanted, so I’ve been starting to plan that out because no way am I letting anyone mess with my day again