Basic rundown:
Got married at 22. Wife was 18. Had one boy. Wife died. Found new wife. She was previously married with 2 boys. Her husband died 3 years before we met. We got married and had 3 girls together. Although the two oldest boys are not my biological kids, we got married the summer before the oldest started 2nd grade, and we are all in the same house so I consider them my kids as well. The ages of the kids are 15, 13, 12, 7, 4 and 4 months old.
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How did you convince her parents that you were ready to get married to her at 22?
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How loud is your house?
Your life is like the Brady Bunch!
I’m sorry to hear both you and your current wife, and kids, went through so much grief and lose before finding each other. That sounds like an amazing family you have now. Happy for you
Damnnnnnn
do people call you mr brady or ask where alice is?
“Ask mevanything”?
Doesn’t necessarily mean ill answer.
wife died, find new wife
new wife, happy life
Was marrying a widow a coincidence, or did you look for that?
Do you feel like you can’t/don’t pay as much attention as you want to one of them or all of them?
Are we there yet?
how did the wife die
Congrats! My Brother in Law now has 7 adult children together with his wife.
Once read an article that said once you learn how to handle three kids that you have a large family and might as well have a half dozen or more.
Do you agree?
Why?
dad is that you
Why not 7?
What’s your line of work to afford this? Cause I’m hoping for a big family too.
Good for you, brother! I’m a father of four myself. When my wife and I first met, my oldest was just 6 months old. Even though she’s not biologically mine, she’s always been my daughter—and a couple of years ago, we made it official. I know this isn’t really a question, haha!
But here’s my actual question: How did you handle being a father to so many kids at such a young age?
What’s your average grocery spend a week? Month?
I’m always curious with huge families as my family isn’t large, but I feel like we spend a fortune on food
Do you have a favorite kid? What about one that you don’t like much?
What worries you with that many dependants? I can think of many things that might worry me, so curious what’s preying on your mind as you think about raising them.
How do you afford that? 😭 even one kid to raise seems expensive… does each kid have their own room or do they share based on gender?
Do you have help?
What’s the best part of having a big family ?
What’s the worst part ?
How do you make free time for yourself
So do you have to like caravan everywhere? The car options seem terrible
Do the kids all get along ok?
“Wife died. Found new Wife.”
How are all these spouses dying so young?
Which child is your least favorite? (You have to pick one!)
Which child would you sacrifice, in order for the others to live?
Do you think you’ll enjoy paying for 8 phones lines for the rest of your natural life?
Fuck that’s sounds like a lot
*Hears only 2 kids beating the shit out of eachother in the distance
You ever nut anywhere besides inside?
I have 1 kid and I am dying. Props to you my guy!
I only have 2 so I’m always in awe of people with a big family because I’m barely holding it together. How do you and your wife handle all of their needs and have time for yourselves? Do you feel like it gets easier with each kid? Did you have extra help especially when the older ones were younger?
did you have trouble dating after becoming a widow? do you regret anything?
What car(s) do you guys own/drive?
Want a 7th?
Do you except the older kids to babysit their siblings very often? If so, do you pay them?
As the girls get older will you move to a larger house so they can have their own rooms?
As an older father, do you spend time with each kid individually? In equal amounts?
have you saved up for their college degrees?
If it’s difficult for someone who has 1 child, imagine having 6.
Do you feel like you are giving them the attention they deserve?
I’ve seen that you have the financial means. But in terms of spending time with them and monitoring their emotional growth?
How many kids do you have?
If you married your first wife when she was 18, how old was she when you started dating?
No thx
How do all the kids get along?
Do they view themselves as “full” siblings? I know you mentioned that you consider them all your children … But as far as the kids view themselves & each other, is there any unspoken differentiation between the ones who have a different biological Mom/Dad?
So I’m a guy, I’m 20 years old right now. It’s honestly a real dream of mine to marry in my early 20s and have a larger family. Like around 5 kids tho I’m not tied to a specific number. You’ve already answered a few questions that I had but I have a couple more questions for you:
What was it like being married in ur 20s? What did you like about it? On the other hand do you regret any aspect of it?
Is there anything you’d advise me to do now as a 20 year old guy who wants a large family to prepare for it? Or even some things I may not know to think about?
Do you feel any sense of independence as a person, or do you constantly talk about what “we” like and do?
Are you still in touch with your first wife’s family?
What was the difference sexually between the 2 wife’s ? Was 1 more kinky than the other or no difference at all ?
Do you also have a maid named ‘Alice’?
Congrats on the nice family. I love your short and precise answers. With a large family there is no time for explanation and hurt feelings. I was one of four boys and most questions and suggestions were answered quickly with the word NO!
As someone who has had unproblematic marriages with two women, do you believe in the concepts of soulmate or someone you are destined to be with? Did you feel the same pull to both women?
Congrats. I only have two kids.
Just want to compliment you on accepting her children as your own!
Are you still in contact with the family of your deceased wife? And how does that go with your new wife and your former family?
And what about your wife’s former family?
Do you have like big garden parties for birthdays?
What is your household income?
Growing up we were 3, and when my dad remarried in my younger teens we ended up being 8. Are you keeping an out out for things like the eldest being parentified, what are your plans as they get older like wanting their own rooms/more privacy?