I have been a pathologically liar for about the last 3 years of life, and it’s just costed me a relationship with an amazing girl,
I feel like I am totally incapable of being truthful, and need to lie about everything, about my name, random facts about myself, I can lie and lie all day.
It’s almost like a reflex when someone asks me a questions in my head I think what response is the most beneficial for me, then say it, even if its a total lie. I really mean it when I say it’s a reflex, like I can’t control it, and I’m really tired of it, I’m sick of living my life while trying to keep up with all my lies it’s exhausting, I met an amazing girl, I pretty much lied about every aspect of my personality to her. She found out EVERYTHING and understandably want nothing to do with me. It sucks cause I view lying a useful tool to fix problems or make life easier for me, but I now realize that only works in the short term, I really wish I knew a way to stop and view dishonesty as a bad thing but I’m scared my brain is permanently wired to think like this. Fuck someone just give me your thoughts.
I have a big lying problem, and I don’t know what to do
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Talk to a counselor dude
i think before you speak, pause. just pause and think is what i’m about to say true. if not, DONT SAY IT. you’re gonna end up in trouble or lose people. i used to do the same thing. just a matter of choosing not to. you’ll be alright. start small
Lying can be addictive, but it’s a habit you can rewire with professional help and daily practice
Seek professional therapy.
Habitual lying absolutely is making your life worse and will forever continue to do so. At work. In relationships. At school. God forbid in court.
You need to understand the root causes of how you got to where you are and learn how to cope with real life. The fact that you think lying makes your life easier is a giveaway that your lying is partly due to a lack of coping skills. The real world requires being able to suck up uncomfortable feelings, being held accountable, and facing adversity head on.
Your complete lack of remorse for your lying may also indicate a personality disorder.
Get help. Before this ruins your life.
This is not medical advice or a diagnosis.