I am 21M she is 21F. We scheduled a date after talking for a bit. Coming around the time the girl asked about what I want in a partner and we had different ideas. So we canceled the date right before heading out. We stopped talking for a while and then ended up talking semi regularly every few days about random topics. We talked about some dude who she was hooking up. Gave her advice about that. Then time passed we talk a few days later which is today she started telling me about her job and is updating me on when she’s on breaks lunch leaving for home etc. I tell her about a potential girl I like. She then tells me she got burned at work and sends a photo of her under boob where she got burned. I don’t think this is normal behavior perhaps I am wrong which is why I’m asking. How should I proceed. Is she trying to make me jealous am I not picking up what she’s putting down. I’m very confused.
I have a confusing situation with a girl
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Honestly man, it sounds like she’s sending you really mixed signals. On one hand, she canceled the date and told you about other guys she’s hooking up with, which usually means she doesn’t see you that way. But then she’s oversharing, updating you constantly, and even sending you a picture of something really personal, which isn’t what most people would do with someone they see as just a casual friend.
If you’re confused, it’s because she’s being confusing. The best way forward is to stop guessing and just ask her straight up: “Hey, I’m not sure what we are right now, are you interested in me in more than a friend way or not?” That way you’ll know where you stand and won’t waste your time overthinking.
Don’t let her string you along with hot-and-cold behavior. If she’s into you, she’ll make it clear. If not, you’ll save yourself a lot of stress by moving on.
she’s using you. not really interested, maybe a bit bored or wanting to boost her self esteem. flirting/banter is the furthest you’ll get. and if not:
“ the girl asked about what I want in a partner and we had different ideas “.
so it’s not worth it even if she’s interested in you, you made the decision once, stand by it. you’re already NOT dating, what’s to lose? a (especially good) relationship is not to be expected
Thanks for the advice. I moved on shortly after the cancellation but I’m just confused with the behavior. It’s throwing me off. It’s not necessarily bothering me and I don’t mind giving advice to her about things I know but I’m pretty confused with this situation.
Just block her and move on. She’s just using you to boost her self esteem. If you don’t want to block then just ignore her and don’t respond. She may decide to pursue you once you become unobtainable so be wary