Hi big fan of the podcast!!!
My female 21 friend female 21 keeps making friends and deliberately reaching out to people who don’t like me. So we’ve been friends since we were both 12 and honestly she’s always been the kind of person who doesn’t have strong opinions about things and honestly wouldn’t even defend herself.
Anyway in my life I have had 2 major fallings out with friends The first time was with a girl who I was very good friends with who she was kind of friends with as well but not close. The girl i fell out with was making fun of the friend I’m making this post about for not liking going etc and I defended her saying she was being rude and unfair then the girl I fell out with started saying I was like trying to be diplomatic which I don’t really understand anyway. But I realised just after that I’d been blocked. I told my friend what happened and how she wasn’t being spoken about very kindly. Then the next day she went out of her way to message like really nice paragraphs to the girl who blocked me which I think is odd.
Then last week my friend had begged me to come visit her At her university 6 hours away and I came but she only spent time with the guy she was sleeping with literally I just had to sit in her room by myself most of the time. I’m very close to this girl so yeah even if we’re not talking now I don’t think we’re like never going to be friends with her again.
Anyway the girl who keeps reaching out to people I’ve fallen out with barely knows that girl they’ve never spoken one on one never hung out the two of them they don’t even have each others phone numbers. Anyway she then found her instagram to message her sending like four paragraphs.
I also think it’s weird she tells me she reaches out to these people like she wants to upset me.
Do you think I’m overthinking this and how should I address the situation.
Thank you ❤️
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Backup of the post’s body: Hi big fan of the podcast!!!
My female 21 friend female 21 keeps making friends and deliberately reaching out to people who don’t like me. So we’ve been friends since we were both 12 and honestly she’s always been the kind of person who doesn’t have strong opinions about things and honestly wouldn’t even defend herself.
Anyway in my life I have had 2 major fallings out with friends The first time was with a girl who I was very good friends with who she was kind of friends with as well but not close. The girl i fell out with was making fun of the friend I’m making this post about for not liking going etc and I defended her saying she was being rude and unfair then the girl I fell out with started saying I was like trying to be diplomatic which I don’t really understand anyway. But I realised just after that I’d been blocked. I told my friend what happened and how she wasn’t being spoken about very kindly. Then the next day she went out of her way to message like really nice paragraphs to the girl who blocked me which I think is odd.
Then last week my friend had begged me to come visit her At her university 6 hours away and I came but she only spent time with the guy she was sleeping with literally I just had to sit in her room by myself most of the time. I’m very close to this girl so yeah even if we’re not talking now I don’t think we’re like never going to be friends with her again.
Anyway the girl who keeps reaching out to people I’ve fallen out with barely knows that girl they’ve never spoken one on one never hung out the two of them they don’t even have each others phone numbers. Anyway she then found her instagram to message her sending like four paragraphs.
I also think it’s weird she tells me she reaches out to these people like she wants to upset me.
Do you think I’m overthinking this and how should I address the situation.
Thank you ❤️
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You could bring this up in Like a joking way, like tease her about it. It’s like, not serious enough to warrant a confrontation, but serious enough to talk about it. She seems to get off on it, I don’t know. Why are you guys still friends?
it kinda sounds like she’s trying to be such a bad environment for you that you stop being friends w her so she doesn’t have to break it off
You don’t have any say in who she hands out with. So maybe not be around when she’s with these people.