Well there is a reason behind everything, do you have a social anxiety or any nightmare which comes in front of you and start triggering panic attacks and fast heartbeats or is it simple laziness.
When my husband lost his job, he became agoraphobic. The best thing we’ve done for him is to seek counseling. Most states have a free service that can communicate with you via telehealth.
It’s fucked up that the moment you need closest people to be there for you all seem to either leave asap or ignore/ghost you. No wonder people commit suicide if the previously set up support system(friends and close family that you kept in contact with) does the opposite and leads the way to your doom.
set achievable goals. even going on a walk is an achievement in your position. if you can’t do that, set smaller goals such as standing up, putting on your shoes/jacket even if you don’t go out yet. Step a few steps outside your door. do one step at a time and it will get easier to become a habit again. I know it can be hard to motivate yourself but going outside in nature is helping a lot with depression.
Been there before, the solution is go outside and go for a walk in nature. Just kinda try to experience something stimulating but not too overwhelming. Baby steps will get you moving again
try lying on the floor instead. you’ll get uncomfortable faster, then when you stand up, use the opportunity to find something else to do, even if your heart isn’t in it at first
Depression is a bitch, but at the end of the day, the truth is, a lot of people struggle with it and still live their lives.
You need to get your ass out of bed and keep your mind busy. Probably should see a doctor. Start going to the gym. Get a hobby that keeps you active. You just gotta take the first step and commit to really trying to get better. It won’t happen on its own.
What do you want? Nobody’s going to hand you anything, get up and start bettering your life. Apply for one job every day. Go for a walk every day. Make yourself a meal every day.
Tons of people lose their jobs, but they don’t sit at home and mope around for months because of it. Get back on the grind. Find something to work for. Find a passion. Try new things. If you do nothing, nothing will change.
I would try to make very small tasks. And maybe try to make it a game with small rewards at the end of each task. Literally just start doing anything, and you’ll snow ball a momentum after a while. I hope things get better for you and find all the resources you need. Good luck!
Love how everyone’s advice is “just get up”. Your mind is very powerful when it’s ill. It can feel impossible to go against it. I’m sure you’ve spent enough time talking down to yourself and feeling guilt about it.
Go the other way; be easier on yourself and take baby steps. When you get up to use the bathroom, take a shower and brush your teeth. Small steps like that are accomplishments when you haven’t consistently been doing them. Move to the living room sofa. Cook a meal. Sit upright instead of laying down. Open some blinds. Clean something big or small.
Depression is a bitch and causes so much negative self talk, that in my experience, others being hard on me doesn’t have the effect they think it does. I’ve already told myself all of the things, I’ve already beaten myself up more than anyone else could. But when my therapist told me to set small (like really small) goals, accomplishing them gave me motivation and tasks seemed smaller and smaller. Do the task and go sit down. Eventually I was up and active consistently without even noticing. Be nice to yourself!
This might sound corny ,but if you can, start writing in a journal then after a week, re-read it a page at a time thinking about your mindset, even if you can only manage a sentence or even a few doodles it can be healthy for your mind, if you can manage to, make a few goals , they don’t have to be huge…that maybe involve getting a little bit of sunshine a little at a time if you aren’t ready to do that yet, then maybe try cleaning up your space bit by bit maybe rearrange your belongings little by little maybe you just need to heal a little bit. And that’s cool. Don’t let others responses to get you down if you can just focus on trying to do a little bit of anything each day or at least each week. Hugs to you and I hope you do well ❤️
Go for a walk, take vitamins, drink water, try and see this as an opportunity for a fresh start. Seek out therapy if you’re feeling too stuck down and out. You’ll be ok
An activity list/schedule, if you feel like going outside is too much right now, just stick to indoors. Such as have a shower/wash hair every day at 09:30 , have breakfast at 10:30, wash up, do a chore around the house. Do something nice for yourself.
Been in bed for three months now. I lost my job on Jan 1. I mean I leave my bed, leave my house, I do go get food, etc. but that’s only for a few hours at a time. Then it’s back home and back to bed.
I’ve had times where I’ve done this before but never for this long. Maybe a week at most. This time it has a lot to do w the environment here…and that I’m able to actually survive without working or having much contact w outside world.
Idk the answer or the cure. I know I don’t want to do this for another second, but I have no motivation to or for……anything. I eat bc I must, but I don’t want to ☠️. It’s not that I don’t care, bc I care deeply. Sometimes I think it’s that I care too much and the burden of caring so much just mentally and emotionally wears me out.
In the end what I really believe is that someone else will need me and that will be the motivating factor that changes things. I also believe most of us go through times like this…we may not all literally go to bed for a time, but we close ourselves off, take a step back, retreat in some way for a time.
If nothing else I hope it encourages you to know you’re not the only one. It’s not an easy thing to admit, and my guess is more people have experienced it than will ever talk about it.
So many people commenting saying something along the lines of “start small– take a shower, get dressed, make breakfast”…
So many people (luckily for them) don’t realize that something as simple as showering can feel like moving a mountain when you’re in this type of negative mind space.
Getting in “a simple shower” can feel like the equivalent of a 40+ hour work week… and that’s just physically. Allowing yourself to get into the right positive mental space to take “a simple shower” is something people who don’t struggle with it can little seldom imagine how insanely overwhelming that “simple shower” can be.
Do we feel so much better once we’re out, clean, refreshed, rejuvenated, etc.? Of course- but wrapping your head around that when you’re within the dark grasp of depression can be nearly impossible.
Maybe some positive affirmations may help. I watch Napoleon Hill videos on YouTube. A lot of days I feel stuck and depressed after losing my job. The gym helps sometimes. You’ll find your strength. Don’t give up.
Well, while youre just laying there, you should do some self reflection.
If your family and friends had left you, there must be a reason why. If it was just one person, or maybe two, then its not a reason to be too concerned. But if they all left you..? Then its time to look in the mirror and reflect on why they left you. Own it. And make efforts to change. Each day, make an active effort to become a better version of yourself than you were yesterday. Over time, there’ll be a big difference.
Depression is a horrible thing to go through. And I do hope you get better soon.
But as someone who is speaking to you from experience. The best way to beat depression, is to work on yourself for the better. Work on yourself mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and lastly physically. Work on whatever toxic traits and characteristics you may have (which you 100% do have because family and friends wouldn’t have left you if you were a good person).
As you work on yourself more, for the better, you’ll start noticing that its easier to wake up everyday and getting out of bed.
Theres always a light at the end of the tunnel, even if youre too far from it to be able to see it. Its still there. You just have to keep moving forward to be able to get to it.
What helped me was I started reading self help books. I started watching inspirational videos online. Started listening to more positive music. And nothing that I watch he’d or read was negative or political. I worked on myself spiritually as well. What ever your spiritual beliefs are, right nows the time to get more into it. And after I maintained a healthier mindset, I started to work on myself physically. Gone on walks. Then it graduated into jogs.
Spend the time you need in bed, fine. But while youre there, just do some self reflection. And figure out, plan out, where you can change and improve yourself.
I never would encourage smoking but.. when this happened to me I started with waking up at 7 am to smoke a cig. Built a habit of leaving my room early and going on a walk while also making me literally addicted to it lol. Eventually 7am cigs get nauseating… but boom there ya go. Build an addiction to leaving your room in some way.
Depression can be so debilitating and it can often take years to find the right medication. I had tried many different antidepressants and only had small improvements. I just started ketamine therapy and have already noticed improvements.
Jesus 6 months is a long time. Try to get yourself in therapy, hit the gym and take care of yourself. I’m not an adult so I know little about losing a job but I do know that self-care is important. You lost a job, you didn’t break the law or hurt someone, be kind to yourself.
When I was super depressed and had to move back home, my dad would let me sleep in, but when he’d wake me up he’d tell me to brush my teeth right away and shower. That he didn’t care if I stayed in bed after that bc at least I got up and did 2 things to take care of myself and that even if they’re small, I should be proud that I was able to get up and do that. During that time he really drilled it into me that I needed to take any small win I could get
And to OP I know it feels hopeless and like there’s no point in continuing. Where is the appeal of suffering for another several decades.
Try your very very best to think of all the things in life you do enjoy. Whether that’s people you know love you or count on you, whether that’s movies or music you enjoy or video games or books you’re excited are going to release. Maybe it’s the way the sun shines on through your bedroom window or how chilly autumn air can refresh your lungs.
Think about all the ‘what if’s’ that lie in your future. Aren’t you even a little bit curious as to what could happen?
I may not know you but I do hope you are able to stick around and find out. The fact that you are still here speaks to your strength and I know it sucks to have to be strong all the time, but you are not alone in it.
Go to the local animal shelter and find a friendly kitten or puppy. You don’t have to commit to adopting anything. Just look. Being surrounded by innocent creatures who don’t judge you like people do can light a spark in even the darkest days.
Make yourself get up and take a hot bath. Do your makeup/shave or whatever grooming rituals you would do to go on a date. Really take your time making yourself feel the physical sensations and hear and smell everything happening. My mum always told me when we look good we feel good. Even if it’s not feeling great or feeling amazing we feel enough to get things shifted. Rearrange your room so it’s different. This will literally change your perspective. If you seriously want help reach out to a few people in this sub and if they are comfortable with it make some sort of agreement or time frame to keep with. Start establishing little links with people and video call so you have more of a sense of connection and a reason to spruce up if you find it hard to want to do.
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Find a hobby.
Try to go to gym.
Create yourself a small goal, that you’ll try to achieve.
Take a therapy.
Well there is a reason behind everything, do you have a social anxiety or any nightmare which comes in front of you and start triggering panic attacks and fast heartbeats or is it simple laziness.
What’s your end game?
The obvious.
Get up, or get help getting up.
When my husband lost his job, he became agoraphobic. The best thing we’ve done for him is to seek counseling. Most states have a free service that can communicate with you via telehealth.
It’s fucked up that the moment you need closest people to be there for you all seem to either leave asap or ignore/ghost you. No wonder people commit suicide if the previously set up support system(friends and close family that you kept in contact with) does the opposite and leads the way to your doom.
What antidepressants have you been on and for how long?
set achievable goals. even going on a walk is an achievement in your position. if you can’t do that, set smaller goals such as standing up, putting on your shoes/jacket even if you don’t go out yet. Step a few steps outside your door. do one step at a time and it will get easier to become a habit again. I know it can be hard to motivate yourself but going outside in nature is helping a lot with depression.
Start with small steps. Get up, shower, make breakfast.
See if you can get some counseling and start contacting recruiters.
You’ve got this- but you have to start taking the first steps now.
Been there before, the solution is go outside and go for a walk in nature. Just kinda try to experience something stimulating but not too overwhelming. Baby steps will get you moving again
Get yourself a tv and put it in your room. Enjoy yourself champ.
Who is supporting you? how old are you?
try lying on the floor instead. you’ll get uncomfortable faster, then when you stand up, use the opportunity to find something else to do, even if your heart isn’t in it at first
Depression is a bitch, but at the end of the day, the truth is, a lot of people struggle with it and still live their lives.
You need to get your ass out of bed and keep your mind busy. Probably should see a doctor. Start going to the gym. Get a hobby that keeps you active. You just gotta take the first step and commit to really trying to get better. It won’t happen on its own.
Start with a nice walk outside. One step at a time
Who is paying your bills?
I got stage 4 cancer, will probably die soon, dont waste your life. Not trying to be a jerk but im telling you it can be worse.
You might be suffering from depression. Make so.e small progress againts that today.
Start with walk around your bed. And do everytime a bit more. Little steps make big steps eventually. Try to look forward. Even it’s just 1 day
What do you want? Nobody’s going to hand you anything, get up and start bettering your life. Apply for one job every day. Go for a walk every day. Make yourself a meal every day.
Tons of people lose their jobs, but they don’t sit at home and mope around for months because of it. Get back on the grind. Find something to work for. Find a passion. Try new things. If you do nothing, nothing will change.
I hate the way people word shit without empathy when you clearly made it apparent youre in a rough time
I would try to make very small tasks. And maybe try to make it a game with small rewards at the end of each task. Literally just start doing anything, and you’ll snow ball a momentum after a while. I hope things get better for you and find all the resources you need. Good luck!
Start with small tasks.
Every bit counts.
Once you start achieving those tasks little by little, you’ll get some dopamines released.
Love how everyone’s advice is “just get up”. Your mind is very powerful when it’s ill. It can feel impossible to go against it. I’m sure you’ve spent enough time talking down to yourself and feeling guilt about it.
Go the other way; be easier on yourself and take baby steps. When you get up to use the bathroom, take a shower and brush your teeth. Small steps like that are accomplishments when you haven’t consistently been doing them. Move to the living room sofa. Cook a meal. Sit upright instead of laying down. Open some blinds. Clean something big or small.
Depression is a bitch and causes so much negative self talk, that in my experience, others being hard on me doesn’t have the effect they think it does. I’ve already told myself all of the things, I’ve already beaten myself up more than anyone else could. But when my therapist told me to set small (like really small) goals, accomplishing them gave me motivation and tasks seemed smaller and smaller. Do the task and go sit down. Eventually I was up and active consistently without even noticing. Be nice to yourself!
This might sound corny ,but if you can, start writing in a journal then after a week, re-read it a page at a time thinking about your mindset, even if you can only manage a sentence or even a few doodles it can be healthy for your mind, if you can manage to, make a few goals , they don’t have to be huge…that maybe involve getting a little bit of sunshine a little at a time if you aren’t ready to do that yet, then maybe try cleaning up your space bit by bit maybe rearrange your belongings little by little maybe you just need to heal a little bit. And that’s cool. Don’t let others responses to get you down if you can just focus on trying to do a little bit of anything each day or at least each week. Hugs to you and I hope you do well ❤️
Go for a walk!!!
Please seek a therapist you can FaceTime. Even that small step might help to talk to a 3rd party via phone.
Go for a walk, take vitamins, drink water, try and see this as an opportunity for a fresh start. Seek out therapy if you’re feeling too stuck down and out. You’ll be ok
Get out of bed, take a shower, go for a walk, and get a haircut. Correcting your hygiene & appearance is the first step to getting out of a funk.
An activity list/schedule, if you feel like going outside is too much right now, just stick to indoors. Such as have a shower/wash hair every day at 09:30 , have breakfast at 10:30, wash up, do a chore around the house. Do something nice for yourself.
Its the smaller steps first that will help 🙂
Been in bed for three months now. I lost my job on Jan 1. I mean I leave my bed, leave my house, I do go get food, etc. but that’s only for a few hours at a time. Then it’s back home and back to bed.
I’ve had times where I’ve done this before but never for this long. Maybe a week at most. This time it has a lot to do w the environment here…and that I’m able to actually survive without working or having much contact w outside world.
Idk the answer or the cure. I know I don’t want to do this for another second, but I have no motivation to or for……anything. I eat bc I must, but I don’t want to ☠️. It’s not that I don’t care, bc I care deeply. Sometimes I think it’s that I care too much and the burden of caring so much just mentally and emotionally wears me out.
In the end what I really believe is that someone else will need me and that will be the motivating factor that changes things. I also believe most of us go through times like this…we may not all literally go to bed for a time, but we close ourselves off, take a step back, retreat in some way for a time.
If nothing else I hope it encourages you to know you’re not the only one. It’s not an easy thing to admit, and my guess is more people have experienced it than will ever talk about it.
Small slow steps.
First, go for a walk.
You’ll feel better. It doesn’t have to be a long walk, short walk is fine.
Just do that for a week & see how you feel.
So many people commenting saying something along the lines of “start small– take a shower, get dressed, make breakfast”…
So many people (luckily for them) don’t realize that something as simple as showering can feel like moving a mountain when you’re in this type of negative mind space.
Getting in “a simple shower” can feel like the equivalent of a 40+ hour work week… and that’s just physically. Allowing yourself to get into the right positive mental space to take “a simple shower” is something people who don’t struggle with it can little seldom imagine how insanely overwhelming that “simple shower” can be.
Do we feel so much better once we’re out, clean, refreshed, rejuvenated, etc.? Of course- but wrapping your head around that when you’re within the dark grasp of depression can be nearly impossible.
Maybe some positive affirmations may help. I watch Napoleon Hill videos on YouTube. A lot of days I feel stuck and depressed after losing my job. The gym helps sometimes. You’ll find your strength. Don’t give up.
Well, while youre just laying there, you should do some self reflection.
If your family and friends had left you, there must be a reason why. If it was just one person, or maybe two, then its not a reason to be too concerned. But if they all left you..? Then its time to look in the mirror and reflect on why they left you. Own it. And make efforts to change. Each day, make an active effort to become a better version of yourself than you were yesterday. Over time, there’ll be a big difference.
Depression is a horrible thing to go through. And I do hope you get better soon.
But as someone who is speaking to you from experience. The best way to beat depression, is to work on yourself for the better. Work on yourself mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and lastly physically. Work on whatever toxic traits and characteristics you may have (which you 100% do have because family and friends wouldn’t have left you if you were a good person).
As you work on yourself more, for the better, you’ll start noticing that its easier to wake up everyday and getting out of bed.
Theres always a light at the end of the tunnel, even if youre too far from it to be able to see it. Its still there. You just have to keep moving forward to be able to get to it.
What helped me was I started reading self help books. I started watching inspirational videos online. Started listening to more positive music. And nothing that I watch he’d or read was negative or political. I worked on myself spiritually as well. What ever your spiritual beliefs are, right nows the time to get more into it. And after I maintained a healthier mindset, I started to work on myself physically. Gone on walks. Then it graduated into jogs.
Spend the time you need in bed, fine. But while youre there, just do some self reflection. And figure out, plan out, where you can change and improve yourself.
Is it depression or lack of motivation. I don’t know which one is worse. I feel you though. Hope you get better.
Small step – big step. Start with a morning walk or jogging!
I never would encourage smoking but.. when this happened to me I started with waking up at 7 am to smoke a cig. Built a habit of leaving my room early and going on a walk while also making me literally addicted to it lol. Eventually 7am cigs get nauseating… but boom there ya go. Build an addiction to leaving your room in some way.
Get up. Take a shower. Go for a walk.
Depression can be so debilitating and it can often take years to find the right medication. I had tried many different antidepressants and only had small improvements. I just started ketamine therapy and have already noticed improvements.
Jesus 6 months is a long time. Try to get yourself in therapy, hit the gym and take care of yourself. I’m not an adult so I know little about losing a job but I do know that self-care is important. You lost a job, you didn’t break the law or hurt someone, be kind to yourself.
When I was super depressed and had to move back home, my dad would let me sleep in, but when he’d wake me up he’d tell me to brush my teeth right away and shower. That he didn’t care if I stayed in bed after that bc at least I got up and did 2 things to take care of myself and that even if they’re small, I should be proud that I was able to get up and do that. During that time he really drilled it into me that I needed to take any small win I could get
I know it’s hard.
Try small.
And I don’t mean small, like small for healthy people.
Try sitting up in bed.
Try writing down your thoughts and your goals.
Repeat affirmations (for example: I’m a work of progress. And that’s okay).
It might feel silly at first, but telling yourself such things, do help.
Allow yourself little victories. And hey.
You made it until today. You’re still here.
And that’s amazing.
You’re worthy. You allow to take up space and you deserve what you need to heal.
One day at a a time. Nevermind other people – you’re the one person you have your entire life. Be friends w yourself
Some of yall need to brush up on your empathy.
Depression is a DEBILITATING illness.
And to OP I know it feels hopeless and like there’s no point in continuing. Where is the appeal of suffering for another several decades.
Try your very very best to think of all the things in life you do enjoy. Whether that’s people you know love you or count on you, whether that’s movies or music you enjoy or video games or books you’re excited are going to release. Maybe it’s the way the sun shines on through your bedroom window or how chilly autumn air can refresh your lungs.
Think about all the ‘what if’s’ that lie in your future. Aren’t you even a little bit curious as to what could happen?
I may not know you but I do hope you are able to stick around and find out. The fact that you are still here speaks to your strength and I know it sucks to have to be strong all the time, but you are not alone in it.
I’m sorry. From experience, depression sucks.
Go to the local animal shelter and find a friendly kitten or puppy. You don’t have to commit to adopting anything. Just look. Being surrounded by innocent creatures who don’t judge you like people do can light a spark in even the darkest days.
Make yourself get up and take a hot bath. Do your makeup/shave or whatever grooming rituals you would do to go on a date. Really take your time making yourself feel the physical sensations and hear and smell everything happening. My mum always told me when we look good we feel good. Even if it’s not feeling great or feeling amazing we feel enough to get things shifted. Rearrange your room so it’s different. This will literally change your perspective. If you seriously want help reach out to a few people in this sub and if they are comfortable with it make some sort of agreement or time frame to keep with. Start establishing little links with people and video call so you have more of a sense of connection and a reason to spruce up if you find it hard to want to do.