For starters i have zero urge to cheat anymore. been married for 10 years. Most of the cheating came from chasing a void of social validation. No i never told anyone, but it was mainly for myself and my own insecure reasons. i never got caught, usually the relationship fizzled out for whatever usual reasons. The relationships was nothing special, in the sense, we went out every week, spend time together and stuff like that. No huge drama likes fights or neglects. Parts of the reason why i believe i did what i did was Some of it came from the inability to understand myself and no purpose. It did teach me how to be more confident and communitive with people. Basically, how to talk to people, understand them, empathize, sympathize, etc etc. But obviously i didnt have to do it that way, there were plenty of healthier ways to go about it.
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Me too except my current 24 year marriage. I figured out that as soon as I felt disrespected, I would cheat. I haven’t cheated not once in 24 years.
I’m glad you’ve come to a place where you can be more introspective about it! Also glad you’re in a good relationship now where it seems you’re getting your needs met.
Well, considering how karma works, all I can say is good luck.
Got off of antidepressants last week and this is pure nightmare fuel 🥲
Hey you are growing as a person and realizing your issues. Most people don’t. Just please the second you feel like you need to cheat, have a talk about your needs with your partner. Or seek out therapy.
“You just have to decide what kind of a man you want to grow up to be”
Was always a quote that struck with me, you have to decide what kind of person you want to be, what kind of morals you want to live up to, what are your core principles.
Then you live your life by them.