I’m 27 (F), and never had a serious relationship. Am I missing out on life without this commitment? I’ve seen single people be able to get married then get ahead by having a cc, loans, get a house and feel financially supported enough to not work or work as much. I notice they have an emergencycontact, someone to call, to answer to. It is so hard to do everything on your own. Am I superficial or am I naive? It would be lovely to have someone to answer to and to feel supported by.
I have never had a serious relationship, am I missing out?
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You’re not naive, just human. Wanting support and connection is totally normal, and doing it all alone is tough. Feeling that gap doesn’t make you weak, just real.
You’re not missing out just taking a different path
Yes and also someone to support and encourage and care for, someone you want to be there for. It’s fine to think of what a special person could do for you, but in reality what you want to do for and with them is a strong indicator of how ready you are for a serious relationship.
A deep connection does gives life more meaning. You should ask the difficult questions that matter to you from people you meet. So that you can find someone with whom you can connect.
I think judging yourself based on what’s going around it’s not a great idea as everyone has their own way of life.
So calm down your thoughts and ask yourself whether you have a goal that could make you financially independent in coming years if not then you should plan other options as well.
Its not always that by being with someone in your life could help you financially as that person may get tired over time and deny supporting you financially as burnout is common thius days.
Evaluate your thoughts by listing cons and pros of every alternatives.
I hear you. I feel the same way. I had relationships but they were awful. Now I am being so hard on myself about the fact that I chose bad partners in the past and wasted my time. Now I’m single and i feel like i am missing out, i feel lonely and hopeless. All of my friends are planning their lives with their partners, i feel like i am “losing” them. It sucks.
They get ahead with credit cards and loans? What?
33m here and I’ve never had a relationship. It’s frustrating seeing others in relationship get financially ahead. Life is more expensive if you’re single.
Just gotta keep going and save enough where it isn’t a problem anymore even if it takes 5-10 years.
It’s impossible to not miss out. That’s the curse of such small lifespans.
But what’s important is that you are at peace and can find small joys where you are right now anyway.
Having a real relationship can be wonderful with the right person. It can also be work, exhausting, frustrating, and overwhelming.
If you know a good person to pursue, then pursue them. But if you don’t then don’t try just for the experience. Instead try cultivating peace in your life.