My grandma has been a very important person in my life for a decade. She was there for me when my parents got divorced, and I was living full time with my dad. Who was trying but didn’t know what to do with a struggling teenager girl.
Fast forward to now, she’s become brain washed by conspiracy theories, and become racist. Thinking Michelle Obama is a man, Hillary drinks baby’s blood, the weather is controlled by people, etc. She is also deeply anti science, she went from getting every vaccine, to never going to the doctor unless she was threatened being cut off by aunt. She also has become a doomsday prepper. She is also a massive severe hoarder. She has a lot of untreated mental illness.
She’s not like a member of the kkk, but will say things to be like he’s trying to turn you black when he offered to braid my hair. Making horrible stereotypes about black men, like they always cheat, don’t stick around etc. I’m currently pregnant with a half black baby boy, she doesn’t know I’m pregnant though. Plus she has crazy traditional gender role beliefs. Men should only work, men are just better at certain things, etc.
I was in the process of trying to get her help with her hoarding. I thought we were making some good progress. Unfortunately today I was reminded she is not an emotionally healthy person for me to have regular contact with.
When I was explaining this to her, she mentioned when she finally went to the doctor after my aunt threatened to not give her money, that her tests showed she had a recent heart attack. A quick google search and knowing that she won’t take any kind of western medicine she has like a 50% survival rate for the next 5 years.
Even knowing that, I can’t continue to have ongoing contact with her. It’s really hard, two things can be true, she was someone who really showed up for me when I was a teenager, and I’ll always be grateful for that, and she’s not that person today. She’s not someone I want around my son. It’s just really hard. It reminds me of when I left an abusive relationship, it took multiple tries, but I still did it