I (23f) have a gutrenching fear of ever being pregnant or motherhood, if I was to ever become with child I’d be consumed by terror and dread.
I have tokophobia (fear of pregnancy) ama
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I (23f) have a gutrenching fear of ever being pregnant or motherhood, if I was to ever become with child I’d be consumed by terror and dread.
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How old are you?
How did this phobia even started?
When did you realize
Is having kids something you want for yourself in the future?
Have you taken steps to prevent pregnancy permanently?
How does this affect your relationship with sex?
Would you want to ever adopt?
Isn’t this normal lol
Same here, I’m asexual as well and always wondered if I was ace bc of this fear.
Tubal ligation and an endometrial ablation will change your fucking life, trust. Talk to your obgyn
What symptoms made you realize this was a phobia and more than a passing ‘fear’?
same here sis, i got a bilateral salpingectomy and im happier than ever
Pregnancy and children are a frightening idea. Although I have had two healthy, fairly happy humans; it was and still can be scary. I am glad you go with what makes you comfortable. Keep being yourself.
Do your friends and family ever pressure you about motherhood? How has this affected your dating life?
I didn’t see you put your gender and I thought a man wrote this and I was like … I think you’re safe 🫠
Same here. Nice to know there’s more of us out there.
Megan Falley has a fantastic poem called “Tokophobia.” Have you read it? Does it resonate?
I’m deathly afraid of pregnancy too! From your reply in another comment we seem to have the same innate disgust to pregnancy.
But what exactly do you feel around the concept of motherhood? I’m someone who wants children (as of now) and I’m curious about what you feel, not just rationalizations (like they cost money, time, etc), I wanna know what it causes in you to think of having a kid of your own.
(also pls don’t interpret rationalization as bad, I think the arguments people bring are very very valid! But I see them as rationalizing since I find them valid but still want children, so someone with the innate feeling of not wanting children will use these arguments when saying why they don’t want to have them, if that makes sense)
Do you feel the same about being a pet mother? Were you raised by both your parents or is there some childhood traume that makes you think mothers are helpless?