Title says it all,
In February this year, I held a house party at my uni flat, a few weeks before I met a girl at a nightclub, stayed in touch, she’d been flirting with me, same with her, i wasn’t overly attracted to her, but i thought it would be a regular one night stand. I end up sleeping with her, and she loses her expensive headphones at the party. She gets livid and I call her an uber back and later text her in the morning im sorry she lost her headphones. Police knock on my door in the afternoon saying i’m being arrested for 2 counts of rape, i eventually leave the station, get kicked out of my flat, made homeless for a week, and now have to deal with a lawyer that costed me (funnily enough) the same her headphones costed just for one consultation. I usually don’t condone violence against women, but her actions are fucking disgusting, they don’t just affect me, they affected my flat, my friends, my family, the girl I was seeing at the time, and the general wider community, and tbh she deserves to fucking die. So many people close to me have cried so much because of this lie, I cried, until i heard what the police told me she said I was worried that’s actually how she felt, until i later found out it’s just one big lie, she made me fucking homeless, and thanks to laws protecting accusers (in a good amount of cases this is needed, as furious as I am at the system, I understand rape does actually happen, and the police are just as inept at dealing with it) she will never face the consequences of her actions. P.S: fuck my university, nobody hates my uni more than me. And fuck the police
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You seem kinda hateful, can’t say I wouldn’t be but damn man, settle down.
Socially, if people are on your side, you need written statements from close to all of them. If they support you, then run her name through the mud with wittness accounts and character statements from people. If they are decent people then they will help you fight this. It is a serious injustice and you need help from others to win this
I’m a woman OP and I will say, I hate women like the one you described. People who falsely accuse people of rape, make it ten times harder for true victims that report. I’ve never understood the logic of using rape accusation/sexual assault as a weapon of mass destruction. I’m so sorry for the hurt and chaos that this has caused. Have you looked into taking her to court for defamation? I went to school with a boy who was in a situation similar to yours. Except it was a girl who liked him and couldn’t get him, so she accused him. He gathered evidence and took her to court. She had to pay money and also served (a very short) sentence for perjury and something about obstruction of justice.
The first thing that came to my mind after reading this is, what that girl did to you was wrong, but why would you sleep with someone if you were already seeing someone else?
Sue her!!!
Be careful who you sleep with I guess
False accusations need a severe punishment. No debate there. Better police investigation and less random belief with no proof.
Two girls accused my dad of this. One committed suicide. He tried twice due to the accusations. Glad she’s gone even though I feel horrible for thinking it
I’m sorry OP, I couldn’t imagine what you’re going through.
I’m glad your family and friends are on your side.
You should look into suing her though, she’s gonna do it again, perhaps to someone else.
She shouldn’t get away with a severe offense like this.
I’m saying this as a woman, I would beat the shit out of any girl who ever attempts a lie.
If I ever saw my friend pull a stunt like this.
I’m livid for you.
She mocking rape victims and is humiliating good people.
Making it harder for rape victims to be heard.
I’ve been sexually abused, I’m so angry.
She’s the reason my old shitty friends mocked me.
I fucking hate her with you.
OP, I don’t know how long it’ll be but you deserve better. I don’t know in what shape or form it’ll be but you genuinely do, I hope you’re going to be okay