Hi everyone! I just want to start by saying I am new to Reddit and I am a first time poster, but not new to THT. Also, I don’t really need advice on this situation, it’s just so batshit crazy that I think it would make for good entertainment. It’s a long one though, so crack a crisp cherry coke, grab a snack, and enjoy the show.
Some background that I promise is actually important. I (Currently 24 female, 20 at the time) transferred to a different university from community college in august 2021. I went to a University about 4 hours away and lived in an apartment off campus with no roommates. I basically knew nobody. I met a boy (currently 26, 23 at the time) who had also just transferred in. He was an athlete with 2 extra years of eligibility and needed a new university to play his sport. Since we were both working towards a same degree we had the majority of our classes together and took interest in each other immediately. We were both into Marvel and sports. A couple months after meeting and being friends we decided to be officially together and were together until about December 2022 when he graduated and moved back to his home state, 16 hours away. We had no interest at the time in trying the distance. But as you probably guessed, we decided that we wanted to be in each other’s lives and started fully dating again July 2023, long distance. We made it work by constant calls and FaceTimes. We decided in March 2024 to take a break because we were both moving to new places and wanted some time to settle in. We spent the majority of summer and fall talking on and off, and calling as much as we could, but not officially together or anything. Then in November/December he called me up, told me he was tired of doing long distance, and that he wanted to move to the state I lived in so we could get married and start our lives together. After he told me that I just assumed we were together because who the hell says that for shits and gigs, ya know? And we did all our normal long distance things up until last week.
Alright now for the real reason you’re still here, the tea. (Now we are in present day so 24 and 26 years old lol) Last week he told me he was gonna be busy with work and probably couldn’t talk a whole lot. He’s a coach and spring is busy for the sport he coaches, so I was chill about it. But then we went day after day with no talking, and that’s not normal for us. So on Sunday I text him and my text doesn’t go through. And immediately I know I need to go check his Facebook status and lo and behold it says “in a relationship since January 2024.” I swear in that moment I almost shit my pants because we don’t have an official date. I call my best friend, we do some sleuthing, and he has another girlfriend in the state he lives in (we do not live in the same state). I’m so mad I am seeing red. But then I’m like “I have to get in contact with this other girl”
I try to message on instagram but can’t so I do it on facebook. I gather all my receipts and best apologies and send it her way. But then I remember Facebook messenger is not “hey girly” message friendly because of the requests/spam. So, because I’m such a girls girl and have to tell her, I find one of her tagged friends and message her to see if she can get the other girlfriend to see my messages.
And this response may be the craziest thing about this whole situation. The other gf finally does see it and she proceeds to tell me she already knew who I was and to not message any of her friends again. Flabbergasted, I reply and apologize for reaching out to her friend. I didn’t want to, I just wanted to make sure she knew. And then assured her that if I knew about her I would have ended things a long time ago and that he wouldn’t be contacting me again. Then, in summary, this girl tells me that SHE blocked ME on his phone. And that our whole 4 years of us being together in one way or another, meant nothing to him and he didn’t mean anything that he ever said to me. I at that point decided that the girls girl card was revoked. Like I know she’s in denial but he and I were boyfriend and girlfriend when they first got together, and like for 2 years before that. As politely as I could manage, I told her that wasn’t true, he’s met my family, he asked me to apply to jobs in his state last summer (while they were together), and that some of it could have definitely been lies but not everything was.
When I saw she read it, I blocked them both on everything and now I am officially out of that situation. So yes, that has been the last few days of my life. I am working through it as best I can with lots of Taylor Swift music therapy. It turns out screaming the smallest man who ever lived and the black dog can really bring a girl peace.
If you made it to the end, I love you and hope you have a magical day 🫶🏻
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Backup of the post’s body: Hi everyone! I just want to start by saying I am new to Reddit and I am a first time poster, but not new to THT. Also, I don’t really need advice on this situation, it’s just so batshit crazy that I think it would make for good entertainment. It’s a long one though, so crack a crisp cherry coke, grab a snack, and enjoy the show.
Some background that I promise is actually important. I (Currently 24 female, 20 at the time) transferred to a different university from community college in august 2021. I went to a University about 4 hours away and lived in an apartment off campus with no roommates. I basically knew nobody. I met a boy (currently 26, 23 at the time) who had also just transferred in. He was an athlete with 2 extra years of eligibility and needed a new university to play his sport. Since we were both working towards a same degree we had the majority of our classes together and took interest in each other immediately. We were both into Marvel and sports. A couple months after meeting and being friends we decided to be officially together and were together until about December 2022 when he graduated and moved back to his home state, 16 hours away. We had no interest at the time in trying the distance. But as you probably guessed, we decided that we wanted to be in each other’s lives and started fully dating again July 2023, long distance. We made it work by constant calls and FaceTimes. We decided in March 2024 to take a break because we were both moving to new places and wanted some time to settle in. We spent the majority of summer and fall talking on and off, and calling as much as we could, but not officially together or anything. Then in November/December he called me up, told me he was tired of doing long distance, and that he wanted to move to the state I lived in so we could get married and start our lives together. After he told me that I just assumed we were together because who the hell says that for shits and gigs, ya know? And we did all our normal long distance things up until last week.
Alright now for the real reason you’re still here, the tea. (Now we are in present day so 24 and 26 years old lol) Last week he told me he was gonna be busy with work and probably couldn’t talk a whole lot. He’s a coach and spring is busy for the sport he coaches, so I was chill about it. But then we went day after day with no talking, and that’s not normal for us. So on Sunday I text him and my text doesn’t go through. And immediately I know I need to go check his Facebook status and lo and behold it says “in a relationship since January 2024.” I swear in that moment I almost shit my pants because we don’t have an official date. I call my best friend, we do some sleuthing, and he has another girlfriend in the state he lives in (we do not live in the same state). I’m so mad I am seeing red. But then I’m like “I have to get in contact with this other girl”
I try to message on instagram but can’t so I do it on facebook. I gather all my receipts and best apologies and send it her way. But then I remember Facebook messenger is not “hey girly” message friendly because of the requests/spam. So, because I’m such a girls girl and have to tell her, I find one of her tagged friends and message her to see if she can get the other girlfriend to see my messages.
And this response may be the craziest thing about this whole situation. The other gf finally does see it and she proceeds to tell me she already knew who I was and to not message any of her friends again. Flabbergasted, I reply and apologize for reaching out to her friend. I didn’t want to, I just wanted to make sure she knew. And then assured her that if I knew about her I would have ended things a long time ago and that he wouldn’t be contacting me again. Then, in summary, this girl tells me that SHE blocked ME on his phone. And that our whole 4 years of us being together in one way or another, meant nothing to him and he didn’t mean anything that he ever said to me. I at that point decided that the girls girl card was revoked. Like I know she’s in denial but he and I were boyfriend and girlfriend when they first got together, and like for 2 years before that. As politely as I could manage, I told her that wasn’t true, he’s met my family, he asked me to apply to jobs in his state last summer (while they were together), and that some of it could have definitely been lies but not everything was.
When I saw she read it, I blocked them both on everything and now I am officially out of that situation. So yes, that has been the last few days of my life. I am working through it as best I can with lots of Taylor Swift music therapy. It turns out screaming the smallest man who ever lived and the black dog can really bring a girl peace.
If you made it to the end, I love you and hope you have a magical day 🫶🏻
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bruh 😵💫 im so sorry! who knew you were wasting all that time with a snake who attracted other snakes 💀 low key glad you outed her to her friend tho lmao
You should have posted everything in a group chat, including his mother
Thank God he didn’t actually move in with you and try to get married because that guy is trash. Other woman seems like a good match honestly.
Sorry for the heartbreak OP, you deserve better. I hope you find a partner who is genuine and trustworthy when you’re ready ❤️
Wow! How can someone be so cruel? I am so sorry at least you didn’t marry him. 🫶
I’m sorry your bf turned into such a two timing sleaze bag. And regardless of the woman’s reaction to your message, you tried to do the right thing, which says a lot about you.
In time this will get easier, and at least now you know you escaped a much worse fate, you found out who he really was prior to moving in together.
Good luck
Well, you did a great job. Some people have no self-respect and think they are winning a prize by getting a cheater to “choose them”. Not your shit show any longer, and on behalf of other women (myself included) who would have wanted to know, thank you. We should all be more decent to each other.
girl WHAT. I’m actually speechless. like the other girlfriend really blocked you on his phone?? and she knew the whole time?? nah that’s villain behavior. you did everything right and she still chose delusion?? I’d be in a padded room. also the “he didn’t mean anything he ever said to me” part? that took me out. men will lie with their whole chest and sleep like babies smh.
You wasted four years of your life to trash people I’m glad you out it’s going to be difficult but it will get better.
I didn’t see the ending that I would have never guessed…
Wow yeah that woman will get cheated on again don’t worry it’s so bad
You know Taylor cheated too right?
Denial is a river that runs through Egypt.
Sex before marriage is not allowed. Keep fornicating and keep getting more of the same.
Haven’t read the post yet, but since you say I will never guess the ending, here is my guess:
He was cheating with your twin sister, but didn’t know it wasn’t you until she got pregnant, with twins, and you have decided to forgive him.
Are you close with any of his friends or family? You need to tell people the kind of person he is. I don’t even care, he’s a piece of shit and NASA to be blasted. Of course ideally the girl, too. But still.