2 weeks ago I married my partner of 3 years in our home country.
His family knows but mine do not because of our past disputes that ruined their reputation of him.
Our marriage is only registered in our home country and we still do not live together and I still appear ‘single’ in my country of residence.
A week into our marriage, we had an argument as I thought he was being cold so asked him if he is okay and it escalated.
He ended up insulting / swearing at my family, myself, my health, and my life and said he is divorcing me and that he threw away our wedding ring. I asked him if this was his final decision and he said yes.
A few days later no apology came so I decided to speak to lawyers and file for divorce and message him that I am doing this as I could not comprehend the immaturity and the lack of ownership of how hurtful he had been to mention divorce over something so small a week into our marriage.
He told me he will not divorce and make my life difficult and drain my finances if I file it, and that he lied about throwing away the ring.
It’s now been a week with no accountability or apology and my last messages to him were ignored.
I need advice on whether to reach out, wait until Sunday as my final limit and file for divorce the upcoming week or what to do in general.
I know this sounds like a ridiculous scenario and I am stupid for marrying someone like this but I feel stuck and frustrated and I’m still baffled that he did not even try to make things up with me for a week.
I feel that he has taken away my choice and power by trapping me into this, only to switch after signing our marriage papers. I also feel that if I double text or attempt contact I’m only boosting his ego and letting him know that he will always get his way.
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You’ve only been married for two weeks can’t you just get an annulment? You have plenty of evidence I don’t see why you wouldn’t get one.
Divorce for sure. Get out early and be more careful next time. It happens.
Can you have the marriage annulled in your home country since it’s so new?
You can’t be held hostage by his ridiculous threats. Find an attorney and get rid of this guy. Don’t listen to what he says can and will happen. Take control of the drivers seat
Consummated? If not, annul.
Would you not get it annulled over unreasonable behaviour from him.
It seems you may have had a lucky escape.
If you made up you will be on eggshells wandering when he will throw his toys out again
Best of luck in your future turn this around an you will be a stronger person
Go back to your country try to divorce under unable to find him.
In America you can do that.
Ok just leave yo your home country. He will find someone else and ask you for a divorce.
Get it annulled, no?
Ask a lawyer if you can move your half of the finances before he drains it. Keep it in an account based in your country of residence. Then file