Im a 24 year old guy, I never kissed, never held hands, never got physical with any girl. Every single day I feel lonely and unloved. When I was young (15-17) girls used to call me ugly (sometimes straight to my face) and it destroyed me mentally, I never got any compliment in my life, never been a choice, no one ever got butterflies when they saw me. People always talk about “love yourself first, focus on yourself etc” but the thing is that I make very good money, I go to the gym and I’m focusing on my small business which is going very good, but despite all of this, I still feel empty, like no one will ever love me or appreciate me. I would give everything to just feel loved, to feel like someone really likes me and appreciates me as a person, that someone has butterflies when they see me, when they think about me…the thing is that I always was the “nice guy” maybe that’s why no one looked at me in other way than only a friend.
I’m thinking about getting a prostitute just to feel the affection that I’m longing for.
Thanks for listening
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Hope you find what you looking for.
I get how lonely and frustrating it can feel, especially after working so hard on yourself. Seeking genuine affection is natural, but therapy might help you find deeper connections and healing
Have you tried online dating?
Obviously there will be a picture so they will know what they are getting, there are people out there for everyone.
Chin up!
I used to have a friend that had a growth issue and ended up really short, he also wasn’t a looker, but my god I admired him, he just hit on all the pretty girls until one would go out with him! You don’t know until you try.
Man, I hear you. That kind of loneliness is really tough, and it makes sense that you’re craving love and appreciation. But I promise, your past experiences don’t define your future. You’re clearly working on yourself, building a life, and that counts for a lot. Real connection takes time, and it’s not about being a “nice guy” or not, it’s about finding the right person who values you for who you are. Try to be patient with yourself, and please don’t settle for something that might leave you feeling emptier in the long run. You’re not unlovable, even if it feels that way right now.
Hugs from a random stranger.
Girls fokus more on character and vibe, not gym and finances. Confidence is key and if you are funny about being called ugly, it can be your greatest strength. Don’t be bitter. People don’t like to surround themselves with bitter people, even if they have the perfect status and appearance.
You seem to have strength and it takes a lot to start a small business in your age. You seem to know what you want and that are good traits. Embrace them and make someone love them.
Sorry to bring it up to you but you are mistaking few things. You will not find affection or love with prostitute.
After you will just feel more empty and hollow. Of course you can find Love Lady that will teach you everything (which is not bad idea) about woman body and how to do the deed. It is transaction.
What you need to understand is that you need to build up yourself not only by going to gym. But mostly mentally.If you think that having nice body and cash will make it, them you are wrong, but yes it helps with attraction (there is no woman that do not like to look at good ABS).
For women everything depend on who you are, can you protect her (and your future children), do you respect her and others around you (good woman will see how you treat waiter on your date). She will want to see you being interested in her and her way of looking at the world. And small gestures you do for her and others.
And first and foremost, do not call yourself a “nice guy”, women fear out nice guys as we know they are hiding some things and are not real. As you are, to some point here. You are nice and expect them to fell in love with you and you don’t understand that they do not grow feelings to you. So in the end you are not nice, you just expect that if you are nice they will grand you a feeling. It is not working this way.
Drop the act of nice guy act. and try to fell in love first, put you all in that. Butterflys do not exist apart of romance movies. real love is not a feeling is a everyday decision to do you best for your partner.
And yes it still could go wrong, and not be replicated, that is why love is scary. It is not given it is earned and sometimes go bad if your partner sees you for your ABS or money.
Also respect yourself too, ask what borders you have and communicate with others. be strict with that. Be sure of yourself and what you want from life. Do you want wife and children, or partner for travels, or FWB for some fun outside. You need to know what YOU want too.
I’m 21 soo far it’s the same for me. Watchout cuz I’m coming to surpass you bro
You won’t get “ affection” from a prostitute. She just has a job to do. You could pay her to pretend but the only way to truly experience is to be vulnerable