I don’t know where to post this or where to ask for advice, so I figured I’ll give here a shot. I f20 have been seeing this guy 40m for the past few months and I don’t think he’s interested in seeing each other again. The only issue is that last time I was at his house I lost my earring and he found it in his bed and said he’d give it to me next time. A couple weeks ago he asked me when I’m free and mentioned that I needed to grab my earring. He never made plans, which is why I’m assuming he’s no longer interested. Then last week I mentioned to him I’d be in his neighborhood and I’d like to pick it up, he said yes but then ended up canceling. It’s been a month now and it’s my favorite set and honestly I just want my earring back. I’m wondering if it would be weird if I asked him if he could just mail it to me, or perhaps mention something along lines of “I can just come pick it up, we don’t need to hang out”. He lives in an apartment so he can’t just leave it out for me to grab. Or should I just accept that it’s gone now?
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Just be cool
Just say it’s of sentimental value and that you would like it back one way or another. No strings attached.
Ask him to put it in a baggie and leave it in the mailbox or in a plant.
And please don’t date these older men.
Lot to unpack here.
Have him send through the mail.
20F and 40M…. Let’s hope this is some karma farm bot/rage bait.
Your earring is not worth it. Fucking let it go, Jesus.
I personally don’t think he ever found your earring, but he wanted to keep his options open so he wanted to maintain dialogue. 20 vs 40 is a big chasm.
Mail.
Old trick.
Nice try.
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