I am 15yr old teenager.
I am 184cm and 78kg. I look really unathletic, with lots of fat in my tummy area and noodle arms.
Especially almost everynight I hate my body and myself. Everytime im thinking “I will start to go to the gym and eat healthier!” But then I never do.
I eat like shit, and never been to the gym.
I have bad anxiety, so I am really scared to go to the gym. I would never know what to do and just look dumb. I live in a small town, so at the gym there are mostly people from my school. They would probably just make fun of me for looking stupid. I have no confidence to wear anything nice or bold cause of my body. The worst thing is that I have really bad motivation about really anything. School work, eating and going to the gym. My mindset is so weak. I can never commit to anything. I ofc dont have a girlfriend or big friendgroups. I have a couple of nice friends, but thats really it. What do I do. I am starting to play football again, but its nothing serious practise only 1-2 times a week. Any help appreciated.
I literally cry almost everynight cause of my body, what do I do?
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If you want to change you need to not be lazy or lackadaisical about it. Your weakness and self loathing will not help. Turn your disappointment in to fuel to start the change you need. Otherwise you have on one to blame, but yourself.
There’s no magic pill. If you don’t like something about yourself or your life, you and only you has the power to change it. You’ll have to self motivate. You’ll have to dig deep. Pay no mind to whatever thoughts you perceive others to have of you, that’s a total waste of time and you’ll never know what they’re thinking. Stick with the believe “everybody is on your side”. And you don’t need a gym, you just need a better diet and there are plenty of exercises you can do at home which cost nothing and will get you in better shape. Look up calisthenics on YT, you can easily develop a routine that works for you.
Do you have access to healthier foods? Starting tomorrow, is preparing/ planning what you are going to eat today. Is there any sports program in your school that doesn’t demand selection? Maybe track? Join.
Change happens with one good decision at a time. Great discipline only exists for a few people. For the rest of our mortals change means: “take one good decision at a time. “ You can do this.
184cm = 6 feet or so. 84kg = 170 lbs. Sorry American here.
That’s not that bad considering your height. At your age it’s hard to not carry what other people think. So you need to just start walking around outside (during the day of course for safety) and not worry about having to go to a gym. Also you need to realize that unhealthy food tastes good due to added sugar, salt, etc. Healthy food will taste bad at first, but once you get used to it then it will taste better over time.
Edit: oops! 78kgs =170 lbs my mistake
The only person holding you back is yourself and people usually aren’t thinking about you as much as you think they are. Stop with the junkfood and start going for walks. There are all kinds of workouts online that you can do at home until you build confidence.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this and that it’s to the point that you’re crying nightly.
I grew up with body image issues and now that I’m in my early 40s, I’ve learned a lot that I wish I knew back then. I’m finally at a place where I love my body and it took me years to get here.
First of all, your self loathing is a positive feedback cycle. The part of you that is self hating is doing so for a purpose, maybe to distract you from other stuff going on in your life that’s not good. Therapy or some introspection will be incredibly powerful here, and you can do this on your own. Check out the Internal Family Systems (ifs) subreddit.
When you learn to love yourself, unconditionally, you start doing good things for your body out of love and fun, instead of shame. That is the key. I have learned to enjoy fresh fruit and vegetables, and exercise because it’s a gift to myself. It’s effortless. If you force yourself to exercise and eat “healthy” foods it will always be a chore and you’re likely to quit.
Lastly, you are not weak or lazy. Thinking that way will just add to the self loathing. You’re doing the best you can but you don’t have all the right tools yet. Good for you for reaching out for help.
It’s really tough I’ve been there, but you’re a great weight for your height, so it’s likely that no one would consider you to be overweight at all! Go through your TikTok and Instagram following and unfollow every single person who makes you feel anyway other than happier. Please don’t waste your life worrying about your body, as long as it’s healthy, there are a million more important things than how you look. If you’re wanting to go to the gym, you need to approach with the mindset of getting stronger and fitter, otherwise it’s just not going to be fun or sustainable in the long run. I can guarantee 99% of people your age are having the exact same thoughts, and I imagine you don’t notice the things they are insecure about. If you want to chat, you’re welcome to message me 😊
Git gud
Don’t go to a gym. Push ups or burpees can be done by your bed. Jogging once you get more confidence and endurance.
All free (maybe buy some good shoes)
When I was in high school I used to do push-ups, pike ups, sit ups, crunches, wall sits, calf raises, ankle touches, planks and more, every night before bed.
You’re 6ft 170 lbs you’re going to be fine. Start in the gym as soon as possible, by the time you’re 18 and off to college you’ll be thankful in your investment and you’ll create a base for the rest of your life.
You can afford to eat however you’d like as long as you stay active at your young age. The beauty of youth is having a fast metabolism and a frame that can pack on muscle and lean weight very quickly.
Enjoy the process of improving. It’s the best thing in life. Working towards your goals and proving yourself right.
Be patient. You’ll grow into your body over the next 5-6 years.
They say it takes 21 days to break bad habits , so they say ?? Sometimes starting at the gym is just wrong – start out with walking 45 minutes minimum and do some yoga , stuff to help with strength. After a couple months you’ll feel like stepping it up and joining a gym .
The “easiest” way for me to drop a few pounds and gain some stamina is walking a minimum of 30 minutes a day. This combined with eating fresh veggies and fruits is the best way to start. Once you get in the habit of walking every day – rain or shine- you’ll find yourself going for 45 minutes and then 60 +. Try it for one month and see how it goes. You got this!
Baby steps, each week change one thing maybe making sure 1 meal you eat a day is healthy or taking a walk after dinner. It does not have to be some big long work out but each week make a change while keeping the other changes. Also find a hobby that will get you outside and moving go bike riding, jogging or even rock hounding. Only you can make the changes and there will be days where you screw up and that’s ok just start again the next day. Lots of little changes over the course of a year will make a huge difference. Good Luck
Don’t start with the impossible goals. Set smaller, more manageable goals you know you can accomplish. You have bad anxiety about going to the gym, so that’s an impossible goal right now. Start with home workouts and walking outside. Start by cutting out fast food or junk food first. You need to start cutting down on one bad food kind
A lot of your post sounds like you could have depression. Have you considered that a possibility? I recognize a lot of it from my own experiences with it. Sometimes if you have depression you have to first have some treatment (medication, therapy etc) to alter your brain chemistry a bit before trying other stuff. That’s why it can be that not much works to make you feel better, or you can’t get the motivation or energy, because youre working with a brain that doesn’t have what it needs. I think you should see a doctor. The difference a medication, treatment etc can make is huge.
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You just gotta do those things man. Life’s hard like that. Gotta just go and fucking do it!
I’m more than a few years older than you and I’ve made changes that were hard.
I’ve been addicted to drugs. Fixed that.
Currently working on alochal and nicotine.
I’m eating less and better.
Trying to move more and excsersize.
Hang out with people more often.
These all took lots of time to finally get going and do, but now it’s all coming together because I started sooner rather than later. It all sucks at the start, but it gets easier. Just fucking do it.
Everything starts with a thought. How are you thinking about yourself? Is it, “you gross disgusting…” Or is it “ok, girl, time to get a grip on some stuff…”? Because the first one is self-sabotage. The second one will actually get you some traction toward what you want.
Change how you talk to yourself. If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, don’t say it to yourself. Everything will change for you if you can go this. If I’d known this at 15 my entire life would have been so different. I didn’t learn till my 40s, but it made the most amazing difference over a fairly short amount of time.
Gotta workout. Tbh. Just play sports or dance. You gotta have fun and make friends. But it’s hard. But it gets tougher as an adult. But also don’t forget you ain’t done growing yet
Find an accountability partner. Someone you check in with daily about healthy diet and who can join you for workouts. If your school offers a class in strength training, take it.
Try baby steps and lean on technology. You can go to the gym and walk on the treadmill for 30 minutes and start observing how other people are using the gym. You can download an app that will basically set up workouts for you to follow once you’re comfortable like “fitness ai”.
For your diet you can download an app that helps you figure out what to eat to meet your goals like “lose it”.
It seems like you’re at a very healthy weight for your height + age. It’s normal to feel insecure about your looks, especially with how young you are. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with your body as it is now. If you do want to tone up a little and build muscle, maybe try to come at it from a healthier perspective, starting with self-love and positive self-talk. Start with easier workouts or see if a friend/parent could come with you. It’s possible to do some workouts at home, too, like with pushups, sit-ups, crunches, or lifting objects you have at home like gallons of milk. But, still, it seems this is mostly a confidence/mental issue, and I encourage you to be more gentle with yourself. You’ll be okay. Please take care of yourself.
Start slow. Go for walks. Do push-ups and sit-ups. Get a pull-up bar or some dumbbells.
Eat a lot of protein. You’re certainly not fat given your height and weight.
To be a woman is to know this feeling all too well.. take care of your body and your mental health starting now. You will never be the same as you get older and you shouldn’t be . We grow , we elevate mentally & acquire new knowledge. As a 24 year old that has struggled with body image my entire life even thinking I was still big at my smallest weight ever, I wish I could tell myself to stop comparing. Stop worrying about the scale and just live healthy for me and not to look or for a certain size. It’s good to have goals or want to better yourself health wise. Start small. Personally I liked the me time in the mornings going on a walk listening to a podcast you could listen to some about anxiety and how to cope with that. Sending you a big hug , you are you and that will always be enough ❤️
We live in a society that really goes out of its way to demonize fat people, blame fat people for all their problems, and treats fat people as sub human. No wonder you feel such low self esteem. This isn’t your fault OP. You can definitely eat healthier, but don’t expect that this will magically transform you into having a supermodel body. 170 points for six feet is not an unhealthy size. I think you’re going to be ok
I think it’s time to find something you enjoy. These all sound like a lot of “shoulds” with lots of undue shame and pressure. Explore a hobby or movement that you like! Just one thing to start, maybe you start with a little garden, or something to spark joy.
If you have one or two close mates, these are great things to start to go together. Pick one or two balanced recipes and cook together. Go on a walk or hike or biking together.
Gyms aren’t for everyone. You won’t be consistent at the gym if you don’t feel safe or comfortable there in the first place. And you can leave the “all or nothing mentality” all together. Adults are constantly relearned and trying again!
Exercising and eating right are about more than your physique. Baby steps to finding your worth just for being alive. If things get really tough consider speaking to a therapist or counselor. I believe in ya.
Hey, I’m 36 and I clearly remember being 15. I was picked on, A LOT. Whatever you’re thinking it was more I promise. I know it’s hard because you have to go to school and look at these people every single day. Fu*k what they think. If you want to get healthier or work out or better yourself, do it. I know you can. You won’t realize this till later in life but people who hate on your for bettering yourself are insecure because it makes them feel like they’re not doing enough.
You don’t have to go to the gym to get stronger. Pull up, push ups, and sit ups will help you improve your physique. You can get a couple of bands and/or free weights. Body weight exercises… Set a schedule on your phone.
https://www.reddit.com/r/bodyweightfitness/
Treat life like a marathon, not a sprint. Self improvement takes time, and can be really overwhelming.
Just start somewhere, however small. Say hit the gym every Sunday for an hour, and reevaluate in a couple months.
If anyone makes fun of you at the gym (which in my experience won’t be the case of gym rats), they will reap what they sow eventually. Don’t give bullies an ounce of your brain!
I started working out when I was like 16. I’m 30 now. Been in pretty good shape since. Nobody in my family is naturally healthy. So I just worked on it when I was a kid. It also really helped that I developed a hobby that involved needing to be healthy. I really wanted to learn how to backflip and did! My friends helped me learn it at the beach. Probably wouldn’t be able to do it if I didn’t do my at home workouts.
Oh woe is me.
You have 2 choices. Do nothing and be the same self hater or start doing the minimal to get better
Make one change at a time. Start with your diet. Start eating healthy. When healthy eating becomes a habit you are comfortable with add another. Start going to the gym, just start. The days you are dreading going are the days you’ll get your best workout. In 4 months you’ll feel like a completely different person I promise. No one else will do it for you.
Can you please do me a favor, and for every negative self doubt you listed here write the opposite on paper and say it out loud to yourself.
Instead of: “I would never know what to do and just look dumb” say “I always know what to do and look and feel confident.” Our mindset creates reality and not the other way around. Self-doubt follows almost every decision, it’s natural — and know that you are free from anything that doesn’t serve you, including excess food.
Try some lessons I have learned for building habits. Most of this is taken from the book”Atomic Habits”
When something becomes a habit, it is like brushing your teeth every night. You just do it without hardly thinking about it. And I believe it takes at least a couple of months to get a habit going.
Set a goal and build up to it. Literally go to the gym for 10 minutes. That’s it. You are just trying to get into the habit of it. Increasing your time there can begin after it is a habit.
If you want to work out at home, same thing. Maybe have a goal of 10 squats and 10 pushups. Do this daily.
Make it easier to do it. If you are going to the gym, pick one nearby, and keep your gym clothes on you (if you carry a backpack for school, keep them in there)
Consider stacking it with other habits – if you stop by a favorite cafe regularly, maybe start doing gym before or after that.
Then the rewards make it more enjoyable. Save your favorite music playlist just for the gym.
And lastly, in regards to willpower, keep reminding yourself of the positives of going or the negatives of not going. Do this whenever you feel lazy .
Also, I want to point out, age 14-16 where some of the most difficult years of my life, you are going through a lot of changes. Just remember your struggles and insecurities will likely improve.
I hope this helps 😊
From my experience people who go to the gym are 9/10 supportive when they see someone trying to better themselves so you shouldn’t worry you could sign up with a friend so your not alone and can push eachother but other than that you could start with home workouts to build ur confidence you’ll start feeling better about yourself exercising is good for ur physical and mental health trust me
Give yourself a break. Genuinely, I can feel the pressure you are putting on yourself through your post. You are young, your body is still growing. You do not have to have it all figured out with a perfect health routine.
My best advice is to take small steps: choose one or two things to focus on, once you get those down move to something else. Maybe focus on meal prepping and really hone in your eating habits? Or focus on getting in 10 push ups a day and work up from there.
Making small changes will be the key to sustained progress.
Have you consulted a doctor? I think a doctor might have a better perspective on your weight than you do. I don’t think you need to worry about your weight at all from the info you’ve given.
You sound like you might be suffering from depression, it’s totally understandable to feel that way at 15.
Is there a way for you to visit your doctor for some help with mental health? They may suggest therapy or some short term medication and it does really help get you to a better place until you can handle it on your own. Think of it like not being tall enough to reach the top shelf in a store and this is the ladder to get there until you’re tall enough to get it without the ladder.
Sounds like depression. Great that you’re doing football though. Have the kids ever made fun of you or is it in your head you think? Either way I think you should seek a psychologist, the issue isn’t with what you actually look like, many people would be really grateful with those measurements and it’s probably 100 times worse in your head then what it is in reality. Think about what it is that you think makes you think like this, do you see a lot of ”ideal bodies” on social media? Does someone in your surroundings make you feel worthless? Do your parents pressure you to preform highly and you only revived love when you did something? There are many psychological reasons why you might be feeling the way you do, but you absolutely shouldn’t be feeling like it though
Hi, life long fatty here. I’m sorry you feel the way you do about your amazing healthy body. I hope one day you learn to appreciate how lucky you are to have what you do.
Until then, you’re at the perfect age to begin habits that will last you forever. At your age you literally need to start lifting any kind of weights. It won’t be overnight but your youth is a gift. All you have to do is be consistent. 30-45 mins 3x week go as a hard and heavy as you feel comfortable and eat as healthy and clean as you can afford most of the time. You’ll be a new person physically in a year.
If you find yourself still having issues around your body you may consider talking to someone as there could be a mental component to the puzzle that needs to be addressed.
All the best!
I’m a MH nurse and I think you might have depression. Its not as easy as just “changing your mindset” or “just doing it”. Your brain is stuck in a pattern of thinking which i think you need help to change. You may need antidepressants & some cognitive behavioural therapy to kick start some healthy thoughts.
It may be that you’re just channeling whatever the real problem is into worrying about your body. Thats the path to an eating disorder right there.
I would start by going to see your GP. You can take it from there, but its a good place to start.
Good luck & look after yourself.
Take a deep breadth and calm down some. It seems like you build up scenarios in your head which prevents you from doing thing. Then do something like ‘eat like shit’ cause you get a temporary emotional high which make you feel good.
Sounds like you have some deeper issues your not addressing or talking about with someone. If this describes you some then your not alone. Talk to someone. You just need to build some confidence and things will slowly get better. It’s important to remember things like this change slowly and not overnight. But if you stick to it you’ll see the positive outcomes looking back.
You can do it.
So 2025 is a time to reinvent yourself!! Do it slow and steady and by summer you will notice a difference x
Football is a great start!!! Give yourself some praise for the positive actions you take for yourself. Your confidence issues will eat into your progress, praise yourself for right actions, or you will be stuck in this state. Start complimenting yourself and search for the things you like in yourself don’t let other degen teenagers influence your inner dialogue. BTW There are some great home exercises that you can do which are perfect for starters since it will be plentyful for growth. When you gain some confidence form results and positive attitude towards yourself, you can work up the courage to go the gym.
I recently lost 15lbs in 3 months with the help of Noom and the YT Walk from Home channel. The decision is yours, but it’s totally do-able. Here are links to my favorite videos. I do a 17 min workout in the AM and in the PM a 10 or 30 minute workout.
https://youtu.be/4bGXW8vuZvM?si=_VGO4-lMj75AX-qQ
https://youtu.be/tVpUCkMLgms?si=7BwbLOIu4f25roLS
https://youtu.be/D3I11M_ARic?si=YOAfvp-9iy-iw2gK
https://youtu.be/D3I11M_ARic?si=ienMrwZPX36OTTM9
I eat the same thing almost everyday:
Breakfast – Fruit smoothie
AM snack – applesauce
Lunch – savory cottage choose bowl https://eatthegains.com/cottage-cheese-bowl/
Dinner – ground turkey w kidney beans or baked chicken breasts
PM snack – pickles or sugar free jello
Decaff coffee helps cut cravings
You can do this! Give yourself a goal and measure progress weekly.
Is there other exercise you like better that doesn’t involve the gym? Walking, swimming, running, dancing, gardening, yoga, rock climbing, skateboarding, biking, karate…?
First of all, please be kinder to yourself. If you’re thinking something about yourself you wouldn’t think or say to a friend, then you’re being too hard on yourself.
Just from personal experience, it sounds like you’re struggling with mental health and I’d like to encourage you (if it’s safe) to tell a trusted adult and see a psychiatrist or therapist to help equip you with the tools to feel better mentally. It makes a huge difference!
As someone who had terrible body image issues as a 15 year old and beyond, what I’ve learned over the last decade is that the actual issue was never actually my body and how it looked. It was how I viewed and treated myself mentally. Because no matter how thin or fat I was, I hated how I looked just the same. So be kinder to your body, every day it works really hard to keep you alive and healthy!
If you want to be more active for your physical health, you don’t have to go to the gym to exercise! Maybe you could play basketball 1:1 with your friends, or go for a jog, a walk, a bike ride, or take up skateboarding or inline skating…something fun that you can do solo whenever you feel like it. If you want to lift weights, you could look on FB marketplace or OfferUp for used weights and get something for cheap and just do weight workouts at home (see YouTube for tutorials though, you could actually really hurt yourself doing weights with improper form).
There is so much misinformation about diet and exercise these days and, given your age, you have basically grown up with social media and all the unhealthy standards it sets. 15 y/o is so young and you have a lot of time to change your body if that’s what you want. I know you said you have a hard time sticking to things, but we make time for what is important to us. If you really want to change your health and appearance, you have to prioritize that.
You also have to understand that everyone who is fit starts somewhere. If you’re unhappy with your appearance and use that as a reason to not go to the gym, how does that make sense? Some people workout for their health, but let’s be honest, I bet most people want to improve their appearance. If someone cares more about how you look or what you are doing in the gym than their own routine, they are a miserable person not worth worrying about.
I think a good start is figuring out what your goals are and what resources you can use to get there. Do you want to gain muscle, lose fat, or slowly recomposition? Are you going to go to the gym or do at-home exercises? Are you going to meal prep? Do you want to do 10 pull-ups, squat 135, or have visible abs?
I would suggest trying to recomposition because this is a more sustainable path. Do 30 minutes of some kind of resistance training 2-3 days per week, eat 3 meals and a healthy snack or two each day, and track your calories to make sure you’re approximately maintaining your weight. The Mayo Clinic’s calorie calculator and the MyFitnessPal app have both been very helpful for me. Focus on protein, whole foods, sleep, recovery, and consistency. Don’t punish yourself for eating a cookie. An 80/20 mindset could get you a long way and you can still enjoy yourself.
Basically, you’re so young and still have so much potential. Prioritize your fitness. Set goals. Be consistent. Remember that everyone starts somewhere. You won’t see a change unless you make a change. Don’t be discouraged – you can do this.
u gotta be hard on urself and that’s the reality of it. it’s not gonna be easy but the only way u can better urself is by making yourself do it. unless you wanna look this way and be insecure forever; who cares what you look like at the gym think about how much progress you could make then it wouldn’t look stupid because it payed off . u got it bro
I’m only going to help on one element here. For the first year or so of “gym” work, body weight exercises gets you 99% of what you could get in a gym. Push-ups, pull-ups (there’s progressions you can look up), single leg step ups/downs, and just carrying anything heavy (literally pick up anything that’s hard to walk for 20sec to 2min)…
Just do one set of each once a day. I’d do it right away in the morning. That way it’s done and it’ll make you feel better about yourself the rest of the day.
Start out small. U have to start somewhere. Start with walking and eating less. Not saying u have to be so strict that ur miserable but make an effort to limit foods that have no nutrients and try stay active dont stay sitting even walking helps.
You’re only 15. You are going to go through major changes with your body over the next 10 years. Try not focus too much on how you look right now because a lot of it is controlled by hormones and your age.
Focus on being active and making good choices with food.
Also, this is one of the most insecure times of your life (and everyone your age). Remember that. How you feel about your appearance is more a reflection of this age than how you actually look. Many of the best looking people your age feel these same insecurities.
Be kind to yourself. Do things that are healthy for you and make you happy. There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re a teenager and this is all part of normal development.
They’re my numbers; and that of my grandson. Having some close friends is good. Spend quality time with them. I ended up getting a part-time job to increase my exercise and spend time with different people. Most other 14, 15, 16 yo are too focused on themselves to be concerned about how you look or feel. What others may think about you is none of your business. You do you. Eating a bit healthier and doing my activities (football is excellent) will help develop your adult shape – but no rush!
First thing to remember, your body keeps you alive, it gets you from point A to B and it looks after you. And that’s enough. It doesn’t need to be or do anything else.
That being said, if you’re worried about lifestyle changes. Switch out some of your snacks with fruit or veg, after a while it’ll help lessen your sugar cravings.
And you don’t need a gym to work out. Go on a walk, anywhere at all. Even just walking around looking for a specific bird or lots of a certain colour can be fun and good for you. Yoga tutorials on YouTube are great if you can’t get out the house. Calisthenics are great exercise, you’re essentially using your own body as a weight and don’t need any fancy equipment, and again, there’s lots of tutorials online.
Most importantly, don’t worry about what your body “looks” like and worry more about what your body “feels” like or needs. Do you have energy to burn? Have a work out. Are you tired? Take a nap. Are you hungry? Eat something, anything at all.
There are a million more important and exciting things in life, than the shape of ur arms or the number on the back of your jeans. So long as you take care of yourself, your body will accommodate you. It was made just for you after all 🙂
Also, you don’t have to go to a public gym. Look up vids on workouts you can do at home on your own. Dance exercise, weights, aerobic, body-weight exercise, walking, running, sit-ups, pressups, planks…it all counts.
Also look up style for people with your body type and coloring. Everyone can look stylish at any body shape. Consciously start noticing people who appear confident and put together but are not conventionally attractive.
And give yourself some grace. You’re what, 15? Being unsure is par for the course. Most people your age feel like that, but some hide it better. Trust the process of growing up. You’ll be awkward; you’ll try things that won’t work and things that will; and you’ll gain experience. Over time you’ll become confident. It’s infuriating but also reassuring; time really is the answer. Let that happen and stop pushing so hard.
But do try and find something that makes you happy to be active. Get some dumbbells that you can have in front of the TV or whatever you do to relax, and do exercises there. Walk up and down. Go for walks. Do SOMETHING to be active. Doesn’t really matter what. Focus on feeling healthy and able to do things, vs how you look.
I’m 177 and about 70kg. You seem like a good weight for your height. You are also still going through puberty, my fat didn’t settle until my 20s. Now I’m happy with my fat distribution. Same with my face, my features feel more proportional now.
You’re 17, take your body with a grain of salt, its still settling and changing. All you can do is eat healthy, exercise, and moisturise. Try weights, cardio only ever did so much for me.
You’re welcome 🙂
Weightloss is mostly diet and nutrition. Focus on that.
Only you can change your habits.
No one will make fun of you at your gym. And if they do, you don’t need a gym to work out.
Jogging is one of the best activities. Also biking. Hiking if there are trails around you. Get a set of weights.
Use you phone by setting reminders and timers.
Find workout routines on YouTube.
Start becoming the change you want to see instead of complaining about it.
The one person who can help you is in the mirror looking back at you. Take responsibility for yourself. Start working and don’t stop, exercise, walk, lift, ride a bike, get a physical job. Only you can change no one cando it for you. Stop whining and WORK
You weight sounds healthy but babe coming from a 22 yr old who had and still has the exact same feelings (I have stayed overweight) pls just go out and make urself feel better, don’t waste ur teen yrs hating ur body when there’s nothing wrong with it. Start by going on walks and when ur physically feeling better and them work ur way up to the gym, maybe bring some company but I can assure u those ppl from school do not care and if they did trust me they do not matter in the slightest. Just do whatever makes u happy fr
I am very sorry to hear that you are struggling with all of this. The first thing to do is do not compare yourself to anybody else because that is an unfair advantage because you are not being nice to yourself. I would suggest talking to a doctor about the best actions. It’s always harder to start, especially when you are struggling like you are. I have faith in you.
Something to remember is that sugar is crazy addictive, and cravings for chips etc are usually blood sugar related cravings too. And this affects mood too. I personally have to stay away completely to avoid cravings, depression type feelings, and starting the whole cycle of addiction again. I second eating apples for sugar cravings. I eat all natural peanut butter on mine.
Sunshine on your skin is huge ime. And any kind of exercise you can get should help physically but also mentally and emotionally. Dude you already started playing football again, you decided to and did it, right? You should give yourself credit. Every step is something, and you’re just on the start of this change is all. It always starts with realizing we want a change, deciding what we want and implementing a plan to get there.
At 15, you can just start making small changes and have great results.
Start doing pushups and sit-ups and go for a walk every day to start.
I know how you feel – it is not an easy struggle and you are not alone. Good on you for asking for help.
There are other ways to get exercise besides the gym 🙂
Going to the gym is not for everyone.
Poke around the internet and you’ll find some resources to help get you started with simple exercise and fitness. Stick to the down-to-earth folks (not crazy fitness gurus) and it’ll be fine.
DONT FORGET that you DO need to make sure you’re eating enough food when exercising. A lot of people try to drastically cut calories, and that will only hurt your body and make you too tired to get any exercise or do life. Just eat in moderation, not too little, not too much, some healthy things, some treats, and you’ll be ok.
You’ve got this.
Push-ups, sit ups, butt kickers. You are FIFTEEN, your body can be sculpted if you put in the WORK. You have to find it in your gut and JUST DO IT. Do your ressearch, learn how to do a proper leg press, learn how to focus on working out certain parts of the body.
RUN. Run into you puke then do it again the next day. Repeat. You have to WORK to burn that blubber. It can be done. At 15 you can TRANSFORM, believe me. Drink more water, stay away from processed food.
Yeah 184 and 78kg is not bad at all, I was 193 and 78kg when I was 17 and I was all skin n bones. It’s possible you may have body dismorphia, especially as it’s causing you serious anxiety and depression, you’re young but I’d recommended talking to your parents and seeing if you can go to a counsellor or therapy to help with this, I know therapy and counselling have a stigma to them but honestly there’s not really a person in The world who can’t benefit from it and it really should be normalised (and with the generation is being normalised)
You don’t need to go to the gym to exercise. Keep that in mind.