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I lived with very bad roomates for 6 months and I could not tell the difference compared to my parents

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I lived with 2 roomates who were best friends. They were identical with my parents, I have autism and both were discriminative. They also constantly talked about me and really loudly so that I hear it in another room. I was continiously watched, I was told that I make a mess while they made the mess at home. They looked into exploiting me and making me feel fear in complying. My roomates and my parents had miserable lives and they were lashing out on me. My parents have provided zero support, other parents talk to their kids a lot and they have discussions on how to help them in their lives and this never happened to me but I seen this with all my friends’ parents. Especially now that we ate young adults, I see other peers’ parents talk to them a lot lot they look into helping them with their beginning in adulting. Like I said this never happened to me, they tried to sabotage me if anything. I had a therapist tell me a few years ago that my family is not a family, it is just people who coexist.

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    Unfortunately, since we grew up with toxic families- we see other toxic people as “familiar”. The good news is that you can learn that that familiar feeling is a red flag to now pay attention to and learn to avoid these types initially.