Im 22M and she is 24F.
a little background:
she used to be my best friend for 3 years before we became together. she used to help me with problems with my ex and vice versa. we were really close as friends ( im just trying to give u a hint on how close we were she knows everything about and i know everything about her )
basically one day it clicked after we both broke up and we admitted to each other that each of us had feelings for the other.
fast forward three weeks she tarted pushing me away because i was too much and i was giving in too much when we were still technically not together. she started pushing me away like crazy ghosting me not talking to me avoiding me. until one day she travelled for a month ( we didnt talk once ) and when she came back we had a talk ( ofc after multiple times of her trying to talk to me cuz from my pov this was over ). the talk was basically about how she wanted her space to genuinely understand if she actually likes me or its just because i was always there for her.
Now for the problem,
we made it official that we are together about 2 months ago. We had our ups and downs but the thing that bothers me the most is that she has an issue with me loving her too much ???
she said that was her problem at first and thats why she ghosted me when we werent together because i was caring too much.
i explained to her thats just the way i am like i can fix aspects in my personalities and try to balance my love for her but sometimes i genuinely do love her too much ( hugs kisses saying i love you etc )
she said that she doesnt hate it but shes not used to it which is making her feel confused in some way that she that know how to act when im like this. she’s also afraid that at some point shes gonna get bored of me and this and just lose interest in me and the the stuff i be doing for her. We had this conversation a few times and eveytime i try to calm her down and tell her that lets not overthink our future problems or stuff that we both know may not happen. she keeps telling me i need to calm my love down so i dont push her away.
i told her ill try to balance it out just for her but at the same time id expect her to compromise and keep up with me. she keeps mentioning that she knows that who i am and that shes scared at some point i just wont be able to control it anymore and it becomes overwhelming for her ( it already is she said ).
she also mentions how she needs her space from time to me ( which we both agree on and this is not an issue ) and how i need to tone down my ‘i love you and ‘i miss you’ everytime i see her.
i genuinely do love her. i genuinely feel peace and at ease when im with her. it doesnt make sense to me that we are having arguments on how much i love her or that im showing way too much love.
i dont know what to do or what to tell her anymore.
TL;DR:
my gf is saying that i love her too much to the point where i am pushing her away.