i love my gf so much but i think i might be destroying her family

hi all 🙂 forgive me if the details are a bit vague, i know my gf has a reddit and while her finding this wouldnt be the end of the world i dont want to cause any further stress.

i (f early 20s) am in a relationship with my girlfriend (f early 20s) and it is going extremely well. we met online and have been best friends for years, and she recently studied abroad in my home country, which is where we both got over our nerves and confessed that we really, really liked each other. we spent the rest of her time abroad in a relationship and continued our relationship long distance when she had to go back to her country. the months spent together has cemented for her that she really wants to move here, not only because of me but because she really loves it here, and ever since she returned she has been actively pursuing a full transfer to complete her studies in my country. i have been entirely supportive of this and have done all i can to help from where i am, and we are in constant communication about this. from the get go we were set on her moving to my country rather than vice versa for several reasons, one being we arent super happy with the growing political climate in her country. my family adores her and she would absolutely be welcomed here with open arms.

the problem primarily lies with her mother. i wont go into extreme detail because that isnt my place, but the short version of it is they havent had the smoothest relationship, and these plans to transfer have only made it worse. she thinks she has “failed as a parent” because her daughter is even thinking about living so far away from her, and has been making my girlfriend overall feel awful about even considering this move. my girlfriend seems to believe that by moving to be with me it would damage her relationship with her mother, who doesnt seem to believe that “talking on the phone” is a real way to communicate with somebody. her father is way more supportive, and has said she doesnt need to live “entirely for her mom and dad”, but has basically admitted outright that my girlfriend moving away will be the thing that ends his marriage (theyve been heading in that direction for a while now). and while he did add that “if it wasnt this, it would be something else” on the end….. i mean wow, talk about a lot of pressure on my poor girlfriend haha

i empathise with her mother and i completely understand that she is likely lashing out because she will miss her daughter, but i just feel terrible for my girlfriend. my girlfriend has basically laid out that either her mother is miserable, or both her AND her mother are miserable here, which i wish wasnt the case. neither of us are even considering breaking up over this, and i dont know if that makes me selfish or not. i just love her so much. she was so happy over here and i was too. not to get all sappy in a reddit post but she truly is the perfect girlfriend, i love spending all of my time with her and i want to spend the rest of my life being with her and becoming a better, more motivated person because of her. she assures me every day that this fight has not deterred her decision to transfer here, but that it has made her feel strange about it all, which is completely understandable.

has anybody been in a similar situation? any advice to share? i want to support her in any way that i can but i am halfway across the world. i am extremely secure in this relationship and know that she loves me a whole lot, i think im just feeling guilty. i just really hope im worth all of this.

tl;dr: my girlfriend wants to move countries to be with me but it is likely going to damage her relationship with her family