Today is mine and my boyfriend’s 1 year anniversary when we kissed and have been committed ever since.
And I know… I KNOW his ex is a psycho. He’s not just saying that, as 20+ years ago I introduced them and she was my friend originally.
And everything he says is true about her but it’s like rehashing scenarios that happened in which she was an evil street walker, which is every scenario. And he gets himself all worked up and mad all over again. And I DONT WANT TO HEAR IT ANYMORE.
because to me, the opposite of love is NOT hate. It’s indifference. Which is what I feel toward my ex husband of 19 years. Actually, I wish him well though he was abusive and finally I left when he served 1 1/2 years for aggravated domestic violence against me. I’m not mad. I hope he does well, and I’m free of the burden of bitterness.
He can’t get there with his ex. Which makes me crazy. Hate implies care and a kind of passion. Am I wrong?? We have a great relationship but goddamn dude let it go you got a real one now
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Fellas, is it wrong to be traumatized by an ex gf?
He might need outside help to get over it
Idk what happened but from reading your post and you admit she’s a “psycho”, I assume he probably went through some form of abuse? Shit like that isn’t easy to get over. Especially when it is the mind games
I have been happily with my partner for almost 3 years now but unfortunately every now and again something will trigger me and I’ll get upset about my ex again. I left my ex too so it’s not like I miss him, it was my choice to leave. My partner knows what I went through and knows how hard it has been for me to recover from that.
Idk when they broke up but maybe give him some grace. I hate my ex. I don’t care where he is or what he’s doing but I hate him for what he put me through. I don’t want to hate him for my own sake, but there still hasn’t been enough distance and time for me to get fully over everything.