I’ve been dating my girlfriend Kaylee (F/18) for two years. Things were good in the beginning, but lately, our relationship has started to wear me down. Our sex life has basically disappeared — she rarely wants to, and it’s become hard to talk about. I’ve tried to be patient, but it’s left me feeling unwanted.
More than that, I don’t feel like myself around her anymore. I don’t feel like a man — not in a macho sense, but I feel weak, passive, like I’ve lost my direction. I’ve become apathetic and unmotivated in life overall.
She’s been dealing with some minor health issues lately, and I’ve been trying to support her. But if I’m honest, it adds to the emotional pressure I already feel in this relationship.
At the same time, I’ve started feeling a connection with a classmate, Anna (F/18). We’ve only had casual conversations, nothing physical or inappropriate, but I can’t help noticing the way she looks at me, or how engaged she is when we talk. I feel lighter with her. I even catch myself imagining what a future with her would be like, and that makes me feel incredibly guilty.
I don’t want to cheat or hurt anyone. I still care about Kaylee, but I don’t feel fulfilled or truly happy. I’m stuck — I don’t know if I’m being selfish, or just finally honest with myself.
TL;DR:
I (M/18) have been with my girlfriend (F/18) for 2 years, but our relationship has become emotionally and physically draining. Meanwhile, I’m developing feelings for a classmate (F/18) and feel more alive around her. I don’t want to hurt my girlfriend, but I’m not sure how much longer I can pretend everything is okay. What should I do?
Comments
There is something called emotional cheating. Talk to your gf about this as adults. She doesn’t deserve this.
Okay, listen. You are 18. You should really not be living in a sexless unfulfilling relationship yet. Those relationships are for when you get older. Now you go tell Kaylee that you love her, but this isn’t going well. You can feel her love is disappearing. And to be honest your love for her is disappearing aswell. Let’s end it on good terms while we aren’t screaming at each other. Maybe in a year or so, when the hurt is gone, we can talk again and maybe be friends. Right now, none of us is happy in this relationship. So i want to end it, and let ourselves be happy again.
And then you go continue whatever you are doing with the new girl.