My wife and I got married about 18 months ago. I recently found out that she’s made a new male friend online, and when he asked if she was married, she told him she wasn’t.
As far as I can tell, it’s all just friendly from both sides. There are no sexual remarks, pictures being exchanged or any signs that they’re planning to meet up. She also hasn’t said anything about me, positive or negative. It’s like I don’t exist in their conversations.
So I’m just finding it all a bit strange. I don’t mind my wife having male friends, but I do feel uncomfortable knowing she’s telling someone she’s not married.
Has anyone else experienced a situation like this, or would have advice about how to handle it?
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>There are no sexual remarks, pictures being exchanged or any signs that they’re planning to meet up.
Yet anyway.
Only reason to keep you a secret is because she wants this dude to think she’s single.
There is no legitimate reason for her to say she isn’t married
When you asked her about it, what did she say?
Is she ok with you telling people you meet that you’re unmarried?
Can you think of a single innocuous reason for her to lie to men about her relationship status?
So what did she say when you asked her why she said that?
Yes. My husband took his ring off because there are a lot of female coworkers where he works.
Run. Just run. They are all the same. I know every single relationship/marriage has different boundaries, but this is NOT ok. Hiding the fact that she is married? She doesn’t have good intentions. If she wanted a friend, he wouldn’t have a problem with her being married because it’d be just a friendship, right?
What did she say when you asked her?
If a woman wants to act single, you make them single.
She’s sleeping with the guy. You just haven’t found out yet.
There are plenty of legitimate justifications for your wife’s behaviour:
Etc.
She intentionally made the statement. She chose to break the trust.
This kind of behavior doesn’t need an explanation, its very clear what shes doing. Looks like it’s time to start planning your exit because she’s starting to look into other options.
Your wife is still trying to play the field as a single woman. Give your wife her wish and divorce her. You deserve someone who wants to be your wife and tells people she’s married
So, a dude asks a gal, “Are you married?” This question is not being asked because he has a single friend that he wants to “set up.” This question is asked because he wants to know if she’s DTF. A woman who lies and says “no, I’m not married (engaged, in a relationship)” is DTF.
She wants this guy to believe she’s single. There’s a reason for that. The reason is she’s putting herself out there as single to see if she can find a better option. Wake up! Serial cheaters do this kind of thing every single day.
And u still want to provide commitment and financial support after that?
This would warrant a discussion with her.
Look up something called micro cheating
I think she’s just careful about online “friends“.
She didn’t need to disclose the real her.
Would you be comfortable if she tells some stranger everything about you and your children?
No, right?
Mate mate mate. Give your head a wobble here. What possible innocent reason might she have to tell strange blokes online that she’s single?
Not mentioning she is married is one thing but actually telling him she isn’t married? That is a whole other level of disrespect towards you and your marriage and should have resulted in a long hard conversation about WTF her end game is. Tell her if she wants to be single again to just tell you and you can make it happen? Husbands and wives can have friends of the opposite sex but those friends should know they are married.
Wife has new male online friend and hasn’t mentioned yet that she is married: Eh, I dunno.
Wife has new male online friend who specifically asks if she is married and she says no: Sorry, man.
Married 29F here – there’s never a new acquaintance, coworker or friend that doesn’t know I’m married, simply because my husband comes up so naturally in conversation all the time.
There is no logical reason for a married person to tell a stranger they are not married, unless there are ulterior motives.
Now on the flip side, trying to view it from any logic I can muster from wife’s POV: maybe she wants new friends and she’s worried new friends won’t be as open to friendship if she’s married, but then again, as a married woman, I don’t go out of my way to befriend people online or outside of the house and specifically say I’m single.. sorry I can’t see any reason for her to not acknowledge she’s married, unless she feels unsafe in the marriage.
Maybe it is innocent and she wants to make friends with him.
But sometimes if a woman tells a man she married he will stop speaking to her.
She’s told him she wasn’t married for a reason, she wants sexual activities from him, time to make her really not married