Me [M19]and my GF [F20] had made plans to go to a basketball game tmr. However, something came up last minute and I wasn’t able to go. I had to cancel on her even tho she had bought the tickets.
However, this is not the whole story. It wasn’t just the two of us going. It was me, her, her cousin and her cousins husband. So a double date I guess.
This makes selling the tickets unlikely for her, as she still plans to go. However she now has about 20 hours to find someone for this game to go with her, and the options are thin. So yeah shes understandably upset with me.
I asked her how I can make it up to her and she said (over text) “you tell me”. It sounds passive aggressive and I’m not sure why I should do. So…how can I make it up to her? We’ve been together 3 years if that helps.
(This is my first post here so if I need to give more details I apologize)
TL;DR: I left my girlfriend stranded on a date, and need help making it up to her.
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You should pay for the ticket that’s being wasted and take her out on another date soon
What came up that you were suddenly unable to go?
If you have a valid excuse then she has to deal with it.
If a basketball game is more important than you are then you have something to think about. If you start making up for unavoidable circumstances now then you are going to be bowing down to her forever.
Seems like if she really loved you she would forgive and forget. Better have a DARN GOOD reason for missing. If it was carelessness on your part then start making up.
What you do depends on if the last minute thing is an emergency/urgent or if it’s not as urgent that you had to do it over the date.
If it is, then a discussion is in order between the 2 of you to maintain a healthy relationship.
If it’s not, then at the least setting up a date that she’ll absolutely love soon along with a minor discussion.
Most important thing is that y’all discuss it and not be passive aggressive about it.
Edit: some typos
You should say I will boo, and plan a sexy asss night! Make her feel special, give her extra loving, take her out
I think it depends on why you couldn’t make it, if it was an emergency then just a apology and maybe like flowers and a new date will do.
If it’s just other plans you’re choosing over her then I would drop those plans and go with her if she is the most important thing. Otherwise expect her to be mad for a while and grovel
I’ll add details. It was not an emergency but it was something I legit couldn’t go over. It was carelessness on my behalf not cancelling sooner.