For some backstory, I have been with this girl for 2 years and have raised her son since he was born. I know that I took a risk stepping in so soon but I seen someone who needed help and I stepped in for her. Well I took over on the household chores completely as well as working so that she could focus on caring for the boy full-time and did it for well over a year.
Fast forward to now, I have let things slip so far that I have gotten so depressed that I have fallen behind on household things. She does not cook for us, she just started helping with laundry like a month ago, she won’t do dishes, etc… unless I ask her to or start showing frustration at the state the house is in when I get home from work. It is getting to the point that she has even stated that she feels like I just tolerate her anymore. To be honest, that is where I’m at right now. I don’t feel respected in my own home because I am expected to do everything for her and I can’t tell her how I feel because she always has it worse than I do since she is a stay-at-home mom. Her and I don’t have lots in common at all on top of everything; I am pursuing a career in law enforcement as soon as I can get a spot in school, I am converting to a whole religion that she barely knows anything about besides what I have told her unprompted, I stopped smoking both weed and nicotine all together. She is the opposite and still smokes around me despite me telling her that it makes me feel a bit weak, which lowkey frustrates the hell out of me.
I think that I have let things slip by for so long that I will be the bad guy no matter what I say to her. My biggest issue isn’t losing her since I feel like she will resent me no matter what stance I portray to her, it’s the impact on the boy that bothers me. I don’t want to lose him but I also don’t want to be half-in/half-out of his life. The fact that she made me realize that I am subconsciously pulling away made me come to terms with the fact that me and her will have to talk about these things very soon because I just can’t ignore these things and let it slide any longer. Any input from you guys on this?
TL;DR: I let things slide for so long that I feel no matter what I say, I will be the bad guy and possibly get broken up with.
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Just end it. You’re not a bad guy in general sense. She will probably be mad but that’s what happens when you get dumped.
This woman is totally taking advantage of you. She should have stepped up and helped a fair share around the house when she recovered from the birth.
She sees a Sugar Daddy scenario with you because if she actually cared about you she would use you
like this.