Why hello.. So basically, me 22M and my F20 gf of 2 yrs have been in some bad couple of months, and it’s been coming from both parts but we’re both trying to solve them. but it’s just really hard for us to do so since she has alot of emotional trauma and abuse as a child and even go ad dar as sa and i have my own issues as well, such as trouble communicating since i usually shut doen or put away problems and she’s a very emotional person. Anyway what i’ve been struggling with is a couple months back when we were also having some issues i caught her texting another guy, cause she’s been acting up, i checked her phone.. she downloaded tinder for “jokes” and met him there even went as far as meeting with him one night at her place of work, which i did not know until the day it happened she works at a bar. and he spent the night there at her place she told me the day after in the morning but she turned her location on snapchat off that night He slept on the couch she said but idk.. and was nothing to worry about since i trusted she would never do such a thing because she really showed me love.. even when all that was happening. anyway i readsome of the texts because i felt like she was acting up, but only like 3% i guess, but its something. sucks that snapchat removes everything after a day, and some of those texts were straight up disrespecting me, and him talking abt her having a bf and she told him pretty much no. the way she was texting was also very different from how she texted me emojis and all that y’know the painful stuff so she blocks him after i found out had a big fight i decided to stay.. thing looked to be getting better but weren’t because i was scrolling on insta and suddenly i see him as a recommended friend and i’m like what? So i check his account and found out they’re following eachother again,. so i wasnt sure so i checked on a website and i saw that they were eachothers most recent followers and i made a ss and confronted her via text and she denied it and blocked him again so it looks like it never happened and told me it was a mistake from instagram and from the website aswell.. i really dont know anymore and what to think i feel like she’s lying but i have to confirm it. I never spoke to the guy before so maybe it’s worth the shot? I just want to know the full story.. i told her i give us a month to prove ourselves or else we’re done but i just don’t know anymore, i want to text him.. Sorry for the bad english and grammar, this is not my main language
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Why would you even want to bother having this person around you in your life anymore, you are young and there are better options then to force yourself to put up with such behaviour.
It doesn’t sound like this person cares about you at all and you clearly don’t trust her you should really just move on as it will only get worse.
For What kind of prove are you waiting for? Its better to move on for you, trust me