Hi, i am 23m who has been with my 23f gf for 3.5 years now coming up on 4. long story short her parents are very religious and when they found out we were dating kicked her out the house and everything and she had to move in with me. Everything has been pretty good except for little disagreements about chores and house cleanup issues. But recently it has been worse than usual and she doesn’t wanna talk to me about it anymore but I recently found out how she really feels about me cause I saw her chat gpt of her telling chat gpt how i’m like a manchild and she’s mad at me because we’re both the same age but in completely different stages in life. She’s in a full time job doing her CPA meanwhile I am in my last year of school and still a little lost in life unlike her I don’t have my entrie life planned out. I am currently a full time student athlete. And I wanna go pro in my sport however my sport doesn’t pay well even when you make pro. But I really do love my sport and that’s my dream. But at the same time my family has a business that my parents worked very hard to build for my sister and I. And I have no interest in it. In fact I hate it. But it something my parents worked so hard for to help me and my sister and I feel like I would be wasting it if I don’t take over. My other option is that I go back to school after I finish my bachelors and become a Chiro or sport psych however that wouldn’t be until later because I wanna pursue my sports career before my body gives out on me. And overall in my life I just feel very lost at the moment and am unsure of what I want to do and everyday I feel stuck and lost and I have told her how I feel and where I am and she makes sure to tell me how much of a bum I am for not having any life goals or any future plans. Which leads me to what I saw on her chat gpt about how i’m a man child with no ambitions for future goals and how she plans on leaving me after she finishes her cpa if I have not made an steps towards my future. All her feelings are valid but at the same time I feel betrayed because its like an ultimatium for our relationship and when she got kicked out of her house and was forced to move in with me I took her in no hesitation I didn’t even ask for rent. But her reasoning for waiting for her to finish her cpa is so she can be finacially stable when she leaves me. Another bit of background context with me too is that my parents worked very hard for this business that finacially put me in a good spot. And I know they want me to enjoy my life before I have to settle down with a job or take over the business so I also feel like if I don’t take the time to live my life and enjoy a bit. what my parents worked so hard to build for me also goes to waste. Cause they worked hard so I could live a good life but my gf wants me to rush into a career instead of being able to chase my dreams and passion. I feel like a part of the reason she hates on me and belittles me for this is because my parents worked hard to provide me this luxury to take time and think about what I want and enjoy life. But for her she figured out her life and what she wanted to do by 10th grade. So i just feel like that plays a role in why she resents me for this stage in my life too. Sorry for the long ramble thank you for reading. I am just unsure how to feel or what to do about this situation.
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Real, I’m 23 and feel the same way