Every time we argue she somehow flips it on me
Even if she clearly did something wrong she will twist the story and make me look like the bad one
I always end up apologizing just to end the fight but deep down I feel resentful
I love her but I cant keep being the only one saying sorry it makes me feel powerless
When I try to tell her how I feel she just says im being dramatic and too sensitive
I want a healthy relationship where both admit mistakes but with her its always one sided
How do I make her realize that apologies go both ways without making her defensive
TL;DR
Girlfriend (F24) never says sorry and I (M25) always end up wrong together 2 years
Comments
You need to stand your ground next time you think she needs to apologise and wait. If she never does than you guys got more serious issues to talk about imo
It’s odd she called you sensitive. As she is the one who’s sensitive if she can never admit fault.
My wife is this way. I would call her hypersensitive as critiquing her at all or telling her she shouldn’t have done something can make her mad at me. And i’m not being mean or rude, just some things set her off no matter how nicely I put it.
No matter what our “fight” is about its always me going to apologize. I’ve just learned to accept that. She’ll usually apologize too after I do though so i’m ok with it.
I’ve just accepted that I have to watch my words and I pick my battles, the other parts of the relationship outweigh me having to be the one to apologize.
IMO You aren’t going to change her. I mean it’s a stereotype and tv trope for a reason, men usually have to apologize first even if they weren’t the ones causing the fight.
Gonna have to just accept that’s what’s going to happen. If you’re fighting enough that it’s really bothering you that can be a whole other issue though.