Me 14 m was walking out of 4th period math class and went into the bathroom where I was told to record by a kid who was 16 m he had went up to a autistic student and punched his gut and I sat there and did nothing while still recording for 22 seconds minutes after that I had realized the serviety of the punch and the kid was coughing and groaning badly I ran out of the bathroom scared to get in trouble as I was close to expulsion and going to juvie I wanted to go back and check on him so bad I constantly texted him asking if he was ok and needed help I felt so bad now it’s been about 9 hours he’s hospitalized and I feel like shit I’ve cried 7 times knowing I could’ve stopped that if only I had just swung and not sit there I hope the kid is okay I’ve known him for a long time and he’s genuinely a kind and amazing well spirited kid and he’s hurt so bad I have tried to justified it but I feel like it shouldn’t be I deserve to be in as much trouble as the other student and I deserve my ass to get beat I really messed up this time and I don’t know what to say to him other then sorry just over and over
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This is disgusting. I hope you go to juvie
hey it’s okay, this kind of stuff happens. it’s not your fault, anyone in your position and age would be shocked. have some grace for yourself. you’re a good person for feeling bad about the incident, and I’m sure your friend will be okay. the blame and fault doesn’t lie with you, it lies with the person who asked you to record a physical assult without your knowledge. breathe, this will pass, and eventually I hope you forgive yourself because this is forgivable.
That is definitely terrible. My heart breaks for that kid. I hope from this you can internalize the guilt, shame, and disgust you feel right now and use it to turn your life around. Realize that if you continue like this, you’ll continue hurting people and eventually your consciousness won’t scream at you (that would be a bad thing). Do better kid, but realize that you really CAN do better from here. Keep reaching out the kid you hurt. Turn away from people like the 16m who pressured you into this. Pick a better crowd.
You’re ok. This doesn’t reflect on who you are as a person.
You were in shock and our responses don’t work the way we’d like them to when we’re shocked. Sometime people call it fight or flight or freeze. You got stuck in freeze. Happened to me one time too, even though my personality is not that of a quiet shy person.
There will be time to reach out to the victim. It might not be right now, but lives are long and there will be time to tell them your side of the story and to share your apologies.
The best thing you can do right now is talk to a teacher, parent or trusted adult and tell them exactly your side of the story. Make sure you share the details that will get the bully caught. There’s no need to be scared or try to exonerate yourself. Just tell the truth. It’s easy.
And look after yourself. Cry when you need to. It’s your body’s way of getting back to a kind of stasis.
Sorry kid, this is a rough situation to be in. Sit in the shame of your actions and for your sake and that of the world try to be a kind and caring person. The shitty feeling will go away but it doesn’t make it any less shitty.
Hey man, beating yourself up over it now won’t change what happened it’ll only make you feel worse. What matters is what you do next. You saw how serious things can get, so take this as a wake-up call. Be mindful of your actions and reactions moving forward. If you can stop something wrong, act. And if you ever get a chance to make it up to him, do it sincerely. Let this moment shape you into someone who never stands by again.
Use that video to narc on the other kid. Justice plus no one will ask you to standby and watch anymore
You were an accomplice in that kid’s assault. Sure, it’s shocking but to not drop the phone and intervene or at least shout for a teacher/principal?
That kid deserves a confession that you were an accomplice at a MINIMUM.