Hello Reddit, I (F29) met my boss (M35) on Tinder maybe six months ago. We started texting and chatting and it came up that he needed an employee for his business and I was looking for a job so he hired me. Now it’s been four months since i’ve started working for him.
So, to keep things short, when I started he was very flirty and I was very into it. Two weeks into the job we kissed and since then we began having make-out sessions in the place of work. I know, wrong, but it was too good. Nothing else happened. I invited him to my place a few times and he always came up with an excuse, so I stopped asking but we kept fooling around.
Now it kind of stopped happening, because he told me he hooked up with someone a few weeks ago and it annoyed me. I mean, all of this for nothing. I didn’t say anything though, but stepped back.
The issue is that I don’t know how to set boundaries without jeopardizing my job. Sometimes, he stands too close to or insinuates things and I can’t resist. I want him to respect me, but at the same time I like the attention I get from him. What can I do?
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You need to quit.
This was an absolutely horrendous idea in the first place – he’s literally managed to get himself someone who he has power over who will do sexual things on demand essentially.
Please get out of there.
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Power and control. What a “prick” move and cheap thought this will continue. While you may think you’re enjoying the attention, it will eventually leak into your work performance and leave you looking needy. I would leave.
Find a new job asap and leave.
lol. Report him to HR.
This dude loves gambling at the highest level.
You don’t crap where you eat. He and you messes up any sort of normal workplace relationship the second you returned his flirting and let him know you were open to it. Hope the job hunt is good
Here is a lawsuit waiting to happen…… so many red flags…..
I’m hiring!!!
Gotta see it through; fuck him.
Blackmail this guy! And if he’s married, even better, haha!
Start looking for a new job. This was a monumentally bad idea, but it was much worse on his part.
I’m hiring, can you manage a “hard work load”? If so PM me I got the perfect position for you!
Everyday I get on Reddit and cackle at how the women on this app just wake up and make dumb ass decisions.
Working for a guy u met on a dating app is like a syndrome that isn’t up.
Your next job should be as a fiction writer. You already seem pretty good at writing stories that did not happen.
Jesus Christ girl… This is so toxic and a huge power imbalance
Please run both from the job and the dude.