So long story short i(22F) might be pregnant (can confirm in few days) . Abortion is not legal in my country and honestly? I wish i can keep the baby but if my family or anyone finds out I’d be so doneee . I just don’t know what can one do in this situation . Getting pregnant or having kids without marriage is shameful and sinful where i live . Why can’t i just keep the baby? But nah instead i gotta abort it to save me and the dad’s life because of other people . No matter what , i cannot keep it here cuz it’s gonna be crazy .
I might be pregnant and idk what to do
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Did your birth control fail?
Nah bro these posts are so crazy wtf this sub is straight up mental!!!!
So you and the dad decided to fuck each other without protection and made a baby now your going to go kill the baby because it to save the both of you.
best way to avoid a bad situation is to prevent it, i had a pregnancy scare last month. it is the consequences of our actions, sex is great but it will backfire. idk if you can do much here since u say it is illegal. probably have to get married to cover yourself. but sometimes there is no fix, there is no solutions. Fubar, F’d up beyond all repair. hope things work out for ya
Do whatever is good for you, u gotta put yourself first—i mean, a lot of people would definitely gonna judge u if they’d know abt that (abortion).
What is your boyfriend like? Is there any chance the two of you could elope, or more importantly, would you want to elope with him?
Either way, check out the r/auntienetwork here on reddit. The side-bars are informative.
This is so heavy, i really hope you get to choose for yourself and not out of fear of others
Hey there! There’s a subreddit, that could help you out! It called r/abortion , I’m sure you can get there information and everything, you need.
I’m sorry what you’re going through but your safety is more important right now 🙁 please get yourself help and take care of yourself! There’s always a way to get an abortion, even if it’s illegal in your country. You can get abortion pills and do it safely.
An abortion would be more sinful than having a kid unwed. I’m not telling you this to shame you but you yourself mentioned it would be sinful and that you want to keep the baby, based on your own analysis you’re clearly going to regret this as many women already do without this level of self awareness to begin with.
If you aren’t pregnant you should be more remember these feelings and be more responsible moving forward but hopefully I don’t have to tell you that.
What makes you think you might be pregnant if it’s still too early to test?
Ok, I’m gonna try and give you some real advice here.
Do you have access to mugwort? It’s a plant/weed that you can harvest easily in most places, or buy in tea form. It’s dangerous for pregnant and breastfeeding women to drink as it can cause miscarriages. The mugwort forces cervical contractions, inducing periods. I’ve used it in the past and suggested it to other women, with strong results.
It doesn’t taste great, on the bitter side of things, but I mix it with a black tea with a bold flavour, and a sweetener, it’s not as bad. Drink 1-2 cups a day, for up to 4 days, you should see results quickly.
I’m sorry you find yourself in this situation, and for the yahoos in the comments trying to push their psychopathic ideologies on you and judging you. You didnt ask for this situation, and I hope it resolves itself safely for all of you.
Breath. Take a test? Go from there.
Can you go to a country where abortion is legal for a “holiday “?
Your parents clearly dont respect you, you want to keep the baby and have a baby, Well easy choise then! Keep the baby
If you really want to keep the baby. Keep it. Nature that child.
We overrate what society thinks sometimes.
Maybe you made a mistake. Yes , but that’s life. We live and learn. Embrace the blessing of a child.
My sister got pregnant without getting married and it’s shameful here as well. (She told me and I thought she should abort) . But she decided to keep it. (Baby girl) now 2 years old.
But I assure you. It’s the best decision she ever made (keeping the baby). I sometimes feel bad when I look at her(the child) and remember was telling my sister to abort. I love her like my own child , I’d give my life for her.
If keeping the child doesn’t put your life or the child’s in danger, keep the it. Fuck society.
As other comments have said, there are support websites. Also, while this a last resort if you are unable to do anything about it, marriage asap.
If you are, have the baby. They will get over it. It will be a blessing.
have you considered moving out in another country?
You are 22 years young. Hopefully, that is a legal age in your country. If you would like to keep the baby, start looking into places for young moms that can possibly help you through the pregnancy. You can go somewhere safe and possibly call your family, tell them over the phone, and get a feel or hear what their reaction may be. I feel this is the most challenging part of being a young adult, we have to face the choices we make.
I hope it works out. I was a young parent, and it was and still is the best decision I ever made. My kid did well and is doing great even as a now young adult.
However, this choice is yours to make.