i’ve known this girl ever since i was around twelve years old. we didn’t like each other until i was 14 and i was 15, it wasn’t until we went on a 3 day camping trip together that we started getting close which was easy because our moms were also really close friends so we would frequently see each other.
we were so close we told each other secrets as best friends would. my mom often warned me that she would tell her mom everything and i wouldn’t believe it because whenever i asked her she swore up and down she never said anything major.
it wasn’t until a few days ago that i started to suspect that she was indeed telling her mom everything like i was warned.
i had done something a couple days prior and told her about it and that same day my mom warned me and told me that she tells her mom everything even things she swore she would never tell anyone.
i started to suspect and i asked my other bsf what to do and she told me to just confront her so i did.
we argued for around an hour over text with her unable to even apologize when she’s betrayed me and told her mom things about me that could never be taken back. and from past experience her mom would usually call mine to tell her about these things which would lead to me getting in trouble obviously.
anyways we kept arguing and i was getting so drained mentally from how much it felt like i’m talking to a wall, with her victimizing herself and telling me i’m overstepping when all i’m doing is confronting her of something she did which could have so clearly been avoided. but she claims she was pressured into confessing which i believe isn’t really an issue for her because she knows how to avoid questions when she wants.
she could’ve easily told me that her mom makes her tell her all her friend’s secrets so to not tell her anything but no she just kept letting me spill my secrets like a moron. when i told her that she blamed it on her trust issues although she trusted me with her deepest secrets but she couldn’t tell me that?
i ended the conversation telling her that i needed space and i assured her i will never spill her secrets to my mom the way she so easily did to me.
i don’t know if what i did was right or wrong but i don’t feel any regret towards it because i feel backstabbed from what she did and how she lied about not saying anything when she said everything.
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So glad I’m not in highschool anymore
One thing I learned is never tell anyone a secret, cause once it’s shared it’s not a secret anymore
just tell her secrets to your mom and see if she likes it lol.
Now seriously, you learned an important lesson: if you tell something to someone, most of them will share it with their close circle and start a chain. This is even worse when people starts to get girlfriends and boyfriends, couples share a lot. I know every dirty detail about my ex’s friends. I only tell secrets to people who don’t know anyone else on my circle, so if they share my stuff with other people I don’t care because that info will never reach my family and friends.
How old are the both of you? 🥱
This will not be the biggest worry in your life. People drift apart, its a part of life, you can just be grateful for the good times you had and be open to the universe bringing good vibes to you.
I’m in my 30’s and have a friend like that. Shares everything with her family even if it’s none of their business. Now I just think about what I share with her and assume she’s always going to tell it to others. I kinda think it’s her personality
It’s tough when someone you trust spills your secrets, and imo, it’s totally valid to need space after feeling so backstabbed by a friend.