Earlier today me and my now ex got into an argument today, because she’s always ignoring me & never wants to communicate with me when something is wrong. She’s on her phone & her phones already about to die and her phones hot, I had turned the screen off while she was on tiktok, and she slapped me and started pulling my hair & I reacted fast and punch her. She said she was done with me, I said the same to her, but as she was calling her dad I noticed blood on the floor. I grab my shower towel and gave her the towel, she wiped her nose off & I cleaned the floor. Well when her dad answered the phone, she said I hit her but never said why it all happened, just “he hit me, pick me up”. This isn’t the first time she’s done something and I reacted and she called her dad and victimized herself, last time was because I wanted space and she kept moving closer to me & I got mad and slammed the already opened fridge door, she had told her dad that time that I started slamming doors.
But back to today, I left to go for a walk & I had called the police to file a report but I was already on my way to my relatives house so I told the cop I’ll go to the station at around 5-6 tonight but I also had her location on my iPhone so I checked and she was at the police station, I know how she is but I’m also worried. She isn’t the type to get me in trouble but whenever we get into fights or arguments she always goes to her dad. So I’m not sure what she told them, I just don’t want to go there at 5 and get arrested.
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Time to look for a lawyer bud
Lawyer up and be prepared to be put in handcuffs. If you have any visible marks from her abuse, take pictures and document it now. She’s after revenge, and nothing will stop her.
Might as well go i would make sure to ask for a lawyer first before giving any statement they will track you down even if you don’t show up. In the future when Dating a girl that makes you this upset end it right away don’t wait till it Escalates
Geez you punch a girl in the face?? wtf is wrong with with. Leave the toxic relationship instead of implementing screen time limits for a grown adult!
She “victimized herself”…. I’d say you victimized her. YES SHE HIT YOU, but that doesn’t make it right for you to hit HER. You also mentioned that you put her screen to sleep, but what right did you have to do that?! It sounds like she was just reacting to what you were doing to her. I don’t care what your reasons are, men shouldn’t hit women, end of story. (Unless of course she is coming at you with a weapon, but a slap? Come on you know better). You sound like your quite the abuser yourself and need some serious mental help.
no man needs hit a women. and anyone who says differently, is a boy.
youre abusive you should get help before you go to jail. punching your pregnant gf till she’s bleeding is insane. Truly as is turning someone’s phone off and FaceTiming them at work and never letting them out of your sight. Please find help for your abusive ways.
Idk what other advice you need…but you need mental health help, legal advice, and by the sounds of it a reality check. Nothing you did is okay.
Clearly you both are abusive towards one another, but you have to own what YOU did. You punched her so hard in the face her nose bled. If you don’t go in at 5 they are going to show up for you. Might as well own your actions and show some sort of remorse.
To me you sound way more concerned about getting in trouble than actually owning what you did…which was assaulting a woman.
Also have you ever stopped to think that she doesn’t want to communicate with you because you’re abusive? Wild how this all is her fault. I seriously hope you get the help you need so other women will be safer from you.
Edit: AND SHE’S PREGNANT WITH YOUR BABY? Good gravy, I hope she gets a restraining order.
Well to me it’s both, I’ve talked to my brother about it and how much I love her and all & how I felt bad immediately after it happened.
U sound annoying as fug. Why would u turn her screen off while she’s using her phone? She never should have hit you at all, but ANYONE has a boiling point when someone is annoying the sh*t out of them over and over again. Just stay broken up and work on why u feel the need to bug the shit out of other people like that. If it’s someone else’s phone, it’s their choice what they do with it – not yours. Same with their body, their decisions, their job – all of theirs is theirs. U need to focus on fixing YOUR problems. Do not date anyone else until u learn how to respect boundaries.
You hit her. That is a fact. Yes, there is more to the story but hitting someone is assault. If she wants to file a police report she can, and it will definitely “get you in trouble”. If you want to file one as well, you can.
IMO you should talk to a lawyer. If you call local lawyers many will give you a free 30 minute consultation. Find one that will do that and ask them what you should do. I would recommend you do this right now.
(I did this once when my son had some trouble, and I was able to talk to a helpful local lawyer within a few hours.)
She isn’t the type to get em in trouble yet phones her dad and who knows who else to say you assaulted her now she’s at the police station? Dude she is literally trying to get you in trouble everytime. Time to get out of that relationship she is abusive and a manipulator
In short this relationship needs to end. Constant arguments that turn physical typically doesn’t just happen out of nowhere.
As far as police, they’d have to do an investigation and take statements from both of you to determine if you could be arrested. Unless there are eyewitnesses it’s doubtful you’d be arrested on the spot but we don’t have all of the facts. Since you called the police and said you would be there I would go since they have info beforehand of the situation.
Consult with a lawyer. Write down everything you remember with dates and details. Realistically, your response to punch her was not proportional to her slapping you, especially if you drew blood. They might argue that you are the aggressor since you took her phone. You instigated. Be prepared that you may face charges. You should also look into some voluntary anger management programs. You both were wrong, but it sounds like you instigated and used the most force.
In the future, if your relationships become physical in any way, you need to take accountability for your own actions. If she hits you, you walk away. Don’t participate in violence and toxicity.
Punched her in the face. Why couldn’t you get up and send her home. You are bigger and stronger. Absolutely don’t hit a woman.
You both are abusive and toxic and scary and I feel sorry for both your future partners
Hopefully you’ll be banged up for hitting women
You are an abuser. A wife beater. Firstly you’re doing shit to antagonize her because you’re not getting enough attention. Then you’re making excuses for why you- a grown man- punched her in the face. There is no excuse for that. She’s lucky to have gotten away from you before you did worse.