Hello! So I (21F) have been going through a bad patch with my boyfriend (21M) that I live with. Bad patch is honestly an understatement, we should be considered broken up, we just haven’t said the whole “so we’re not together anymore?”.
I honestly thought things were getting better because recently he started doing more gentleman and boyfriend-ish things like opening doors for me, carrying more stuff and paying for more etc. I thought this meant he was going to start fighting for our relationship and we would be okay.
Then tonight when I took him to work (he doesn’t have a car but is saving money to pay in full for one), he revealed that he took an edible the other day, thought deeply about life and realized he does want to have kids.
This man who won’t clean the litter box of the cats because “it makes his back hurt” wants kids. We got together and I always said since the beginning I don’t want kids ever, and he said the same.
I might have kids if I was with a man who would do most of the childcare, but this man took several arguments from ME just to take out trash bags of litter. I felt shocked and disheartened and like a chunk of my heart and ALL of my hope for the relationship that was left was just burned to death.
I don’t know what to do now, I’m getting a second job soon but I feel like a hole just opened up underneath me.
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Yeah, we will see if that kids edible epiphany at 21 holds any water.
Don’t do anything for him for a week and see how it goes. Dude can get himself to work for awhile and think things through a little more IMO.
Don’t mean this snarkily – what help do you need? You guys were already rocky and seems this is another potential reason it’s best to go your separate ways.