Hi reddit i am 16 ,i need your help im in tears writeing this
my brother is an abusive and aggressive person ,today he was screaming and yeling at my mom ,saying she will go to hell and is the devil(my mom is the sweetest person i know )and fuxk our religion (sikhisim )he is now a Christian,he begain to grab her neck almost choking her , i was upstaris at that time and called my dad while running down the stairs, apon hering my dad vocie he ran to my laptop and phone and attempted to change the password,while yelling various swear words and insults
after checking if my mum was okay i ran and confronted him ,it was not the first time he did this,normally he screaming at the computer and takes his rage out any were he did this now for about 5 years now,but this time just for calling my dad he punched me 3 times in the face , pushed me out the door and repeatedly slamed the door on my hands
my mom comes up to his room now and trys to reason with him ,i am a 6,3 athletic person with the weight of 95kg,he is 24 and very out of shape so the puches did not hurt,what comes after is 30 minutes of reasoning with him ,i would ask why are you like this and he would respond with snarky Comments like why did you take the most stupidest way and call dad, and you started this ,while laughing at me ,i sit there shaking as this is the first time ive fully confronted him in a while ,
as last time i did when our parents went on a trip he got my cricket bat and repeatedly hit me with i remeber runing out of my house with no shoes on ,i live in the uk while crying from the pain i was 13 at the time ,he threatened to make things much worse for me if i told my parents ,so i didnt ,i tired talking to him saying he needs to be better and that i am his little brother also he should not treat our mom like that but he still was in denial trying to rage bait me like saying i stink and why im i stuttering while speaking to him ,i tryed my best to not get angry and not do anything and actually speak to him but he didbt lissen when while my crying speaking ,after trying to talk to him i go out of his room now in tears .
I dont know what to do even now he mocking me for crying downstaris and also saying the devil possessed me. I normally dont stay at my home for long because of him,taking the longest form sport i could find cricket to help not stay near him ,i also dont speak much at my house in fear he will so something as my parents have stoped trying to stop him . Please does any on have adivse i dont know what to do and feel trapped.
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Call 999 if you or your mom are in immediate danger. What your brother did is assault
This is beyond terrifying your home should never feel like a war zone. Call Childline or the police now because silence protects him but speaking up protects you and your mum from years more of this hell.
This is so wrong. You don’t deserve to live like this. Please talk to an adult you trust a teacher, friend’s parent, or call child services. You need to feel safe. Keep speaking up.
FIRST: You are not alone, and this is not your fault. What your brother is doing is illegal and not okay — no matter what excuses he gives.
Immediate Action (UK-specific)
If you are in danger or feel unsafe right now, call 999. You can say : “I’m 16. I’m being physically abused by my brother. He hit me and tried to choke my mother. We need help.” If you’re afraid to speak, you can stay silent and press 55 when prompted after calling 999. This is the silent solutions system to get help discreetly.
What You Can Do (Step-by-Step) :
A teacher, school counselor, doctor, coach — any adult you trust. Tell them everything, even if it’s hard. They are legally obligated to help you.
In the UK, Childline is completely confidential and free:
Call 0800 1111
Visit https://www.childline.org.uk/
You can chat online, write an email, or talk to someone on the phone. They can help you with: Reporting abuse, talking to social services, finding safe places, processing trauma
Your school has a Designated Safeguarding Lead (DSL) — usually a teacher or staff member responsible for your safety. You can go to them directly and say : “I need help. I’m being physically and emotionally abused at home, and I feel unsafe. I don’t know what to do.” They are trained to take it seriously and get help from social services.
Important: About Your Brother
He is 24. You are 16. He is not a child. What he is doing is criminal assault. You do not need to protect him. He has hurt you, your mother, and made your home unsafe. Even if your parents have given up, you do not have to.
You Are Brave, you’ve been incredibly strong : You protected your mom, you called your dad, you stood up to an abuser, you spoke about this publicly, that takes more courage than most adults have.
What to Document (Safely), if it’s safe, start collecting : photos of injuries, recordings or notes of abusive incidents (only if safe), dates and times of what happened, messages or witnesses, you can use this if/when you report the abuse.
What If You Can’t Stay at Home?
If it becomes unsafe, you have a right to be protected. Social services can : remove your brother, place you in temporary housing, provide counseling, you will not be left alone.
You are not broken. Your brother is the one with the problem. You deserve to feel safe, loved, and respected. You can take the first step today — tell someone. You are strong enough to do this. And you do not have to live in fear.
Good luck buddy !
Your brother is dangerous and just committed a potentially deadly assault against your mother. It is not your job to shield him from consequences, you need to inform the police to keep yourself and your family safe.