I’ve been with a girl that was like a dream for me, she was so perfect for me, such a beautiful woman. But we didn’t were together, we just were dating. And I can’t forget her, Has been 4 years from the 1st time we dated and 2 from the second time, because we tried twice. And I can’t forget her. I just can’t, and I’ve tried everything, I didn’t think about her in one year but she always go back to my mind, and I don’t know what else to do. I feel like I’m a bad person because I’m with someone else, and she is the perfect girl, she is beautiful, and so nice with me, but she is not her. I’m sorry I feel so bad person wtf
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Why did yall break up? 2 times? That will tell a lot…
Bro try to be loyal to ur girl I know it’s very difficult to forget our X but we need to value our present one also right
Seems you need closure. Doesn’t mean you aren’t into your partner, but if you didn’t end things fully with the other person, then there is probably something that hasn’t been dealt with that you’re holding onto. Shouldn’t continue current relationship until it’s dealt with. You’ll never be fully into it otherwise. And whomever you are currently with, I’m sure deserves someone whose in it 100%
I mean I think about this guy that I liked the whole time, like sometimes he would like just pop up in my mind at the most random times, but mostly when I am about to sleep.
As much as you might have loved her, clearly you were not compatible since you broke up twice. Why did you break up both times? Think about it. It’s easy to place someone on a pedestal in our mind but if they aren’t good for us, that’s just something we have to accept.
I’m going through a break up right now and when i was talking to my friend and i asked him “how long did it take you to stop feeling the way i do and stop missing her” and hes currently in another relationship and he told me he still misses her, he still loves her and that he does wish things would be different and he still has all these feelings while in another relationship. He’s not a bad person, he’s not a cheater, he’s just human. So are you. It’s what you do with your emotions and not what you feel. You can control what you do but not your emotions are.
If your ex were to text you what would you do? Would you leave your current relationship and go back?
It’s okay to feel like this because your human, your not a bad person. Just remember it’s how you act and not how you feel.
At the end of the day it’s your decision and you should do what’s best for you but don’t hurt someone else in the process. You’ll get through this
Same is happening to me. I was with my ex for 5 years. We took an unplanned ‘break’ then she just ghosted me after I found out and told her I may have cancer (I’m fine). Never heard from her again after I told her. It’s been 4 years and I still think of her everyday…
Jessie
It’s infatuation. You’re comparing a real person to something you keep imagining.
Thank you for all who answered my confession, and try to help me, I would to add a little more details about what happened in that “relationship” mmm first of all, I am totally loyal to my girlfriend, and I treat her like a queen, I just some days (not everyday) I can’t get her out of my mind (my x) she is not my ex, because we never were together as a couple, we just dated two times and I don’t have any contact with her, however there are days that I really can’t forget her, and she backs to my mind. Mmmmh and we “break up” because she never felt confident of her feelings about me. I know that that tells a lot, maybe she doesn’t want me, and I really understand, and don’t think about stay next to her all the time, I just think about she and me in the same place and maybe she would tell me something, maybe she will see me with other eyes. Idk, but right now I don’t want this feelings, I don’t want to think about her in a long time, or anymore, maybe she’s thinking about me?maybe not, maybe I’m confused, maybe I just. Idk
Right but if it didn’t work out twice, what is the reasoning for that? because it’s easy to forget about why it didn’t work out the first two times. Things always look better from farther away ya know…like when you break up , she’s out of sight and out of mind and that leads to you forgetting….especially if there were qualities that your new girl doesn’t have or whatever.
You are not a bad person you just had a super strong connection with someone in your past. You probably fantasize about how good you two could be together but then when you actually are together it just doesn’t work (hence breaking up twice). What was it about that other relationship that made you feel good or connected? What was it that made you feel it wouldn’t work? Also if you feel you cannot truly be present and in love with your current relationship then you may need to take a break out of fairness to them or perhaps you may need to spend some time alone. Most of us jump too soon into relationships because we are afraid to be alone. I don’t know where you stand on that. Best wishes to you!
Honestly your heart knows, sometimes people come into your life to help you grow…look up twin flames..not necessarily focusing on whether you believe your two halves to the same soul but what it says about universal timing and triggers and everything! If you know, you know! All I’ve gotta say
Honestly had you had a chance to have a relationship with her and get to know her in all her personhood, you probably wouldn’t feel this way. She’d be no greater than the girl you’re with. She just happened to end it early while the fantasy was still intact, so your mind is running wild with a pretend version of what could’ve been.