For a long time I would cope with the lack of intimacy in my relationship by masturbating. That’s what I did for years while I was single, right, so who cares. I have talked and talked and talked and tried to find any compromise. But my girlfriend just doesn’t desire sex, we don’t have it more than a few times a year and it’s very sad to me. But I love her a lot and I don’t want this to end just because I’m horny.
Lately though when I occasionally get the time and space (maybe once a week tops) to take care of myself I just get depressed and more sad. So I don’t even look at porn OR really masturbate anymore either. I just get depressed seeing people having sex, and I don’t really watch the professional stuff, I’m watching amateurs. So this is real couples having sex most of the time, and it’s just depressing. I know it’s still for the cameras and not real fine. But these couples are touching each other and being intimate in ways I never will, probably. It’s too sad now.
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Bro, you are a man and you have needs. You and your girlfriend have entirely mismatched libidos.
If you continue this path of not getting sex; this is going to lead to resentment from you which would ultimately poison the relationship.
You should have a talk with her about options, either like open the relationship up or just end things amicably.
It’s not like you are married to this chick, there is nothing messy about just parting ways.
its a really hard addiction to break and isn’t taken seriously.
If you quit porn, your life generally becomes better
You sound just like me except you’re not yet committed with kids. It’s not just sex, it’s her controlling your relationship.
I’d leave if I were you, or you’ll wake up one day and realize you can’t. All the best.
Sleep with other people?
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Break up with her; clearly you’re not happy and it’s not fair to her that you’re looking for sexual gratification elsewhere. As a woman I’d prefer a guy to dump me rather than do this
I’m kind of in the same boat. Sucks.
Take it from me, as someone who has been married for 28 years and had sex maybe 15 times in the last 20. For both of your sakes, sort it now or separate. This is going to sound harsh but I have good reason for saying it – her low libido is not your issue to deal with or fix.
You will end up resentful. You will end up shrinking inside your relationship. It will affect you mentally and physically more than you think.
Sex is a fundamental part of any intimate relationship. If you’re not having regular sex, you’re in a friendship.
This is amplified if you have a stronger desire for sex than your SO.
I consider it as usually being used as a way to blunt inner pain for many…
Babe I love you and want us to be together but I’m a man and have needs. You apparently don’t but that doesn’t make mine magically go away. Either we start having more regular sex or you allow me to have sex with other women or hookers.
Either way this relationship is about to burst together with my balls if you don’t let me empty them
It’s not “just because your horny” sexual compatibility can make or break a relationship. Sex is a part of our health… it’s a natural human drive. Don’t feel bad for feeling this way.