I never envisioned myself having a partner or getting married

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As a child, I never envisioned myself getting married. I never planned my wedding. I never envisioned children. My friends would tell me their future wedding plans… and I wouldn’t say anything.

Even now, I don’t envision a partner. I have had partners. I have been engaged before, but I don’t ever think I will have a partner. It isn’t that I don’t want a partner, I just literally never think about it.

I had therapy today, and she had me envision my perfect life. I literally thought of myself… and my dog. I didn’t even think of a partner, which she noted. It made me feel strange that it was so notable to her.

Am I the only one?

Comments

  1. Dangerous_Regret7883 Avatar

    Same here. I try envisioning now because I need to decide and make decisions but I wonder why I didn’t do it before?

  2. Informal_Potato5007 Avatar

    I never envisioned or thought in any way about any of those things as a child or teenager. 

    I did think about marriage and life partnership after meeting my husband. And seven years after that, I thought about kids. So for me, those things only became something I wanted and could picture when I met a particular person who made me want them.

  3. cardigancounting Avatar

    I didn’t either. Then life sent me a curve ball and 10 year relationship/marriage. I don’t expect to have another one, but it was nice to have it and get to experience that.