I (16f) live with my sister (32f), niece, mom and Grandpa. My sister moved back home about 1.5-2 years ago. When she moved back in she was supposed to get my mom’s old room but because it was still messy my mom asked if I could give her my room for 1-2 weeks until my mom cleaned her room. Weeks turned into months and she ended up keeping my room.
I was upset because all my stuff was in there and she took over my space, filling my drawers with her stuff, using my sheets, and letting my niece get daughter go through my stuff and pay with my Legos. (Legos are a passion for me and very important, I put them on a shelf so that they could be down like a personal gallery). Eventually I started taking my stuff out and putting it in my mom’s old room that she eventually gave me because I was completing that she stole my room and I was forced to sleep on the living room couch.
When I was talking my stuff half of it was either missing or destroyed. Even my bed that I loved and put together myself when we for it from IKEA once of the pieces is secretly chipped, but she loves to complain about how uncomfortable the bed is. Which brothers me because she is constantly complaining about the house, and the lack of money she had but she isn’t making a real effort to get a job, and she keeps saying as a family we should move houses. My mom kept reminding her we have to stay so I can finish senior year in this county avoid she keeps insisting that we move because she doesn’t want to live here.
It got worse recently because I was recently diagnosed with an autoimmune disease and I have constant headaches and are sensitive to loud noises. My sister is constantly yelling at my niece (her daughter) especially late at night when I’m trying to fall asleep (around 930- later), talking to her friend on speaker, watching reels with the volume super loud, avoid I can ALWAYS hear her tv through the wall. We are technically supposed to share the upstairs bathroom, but she took over the ENTIRE bathroom, avoid when my stuff was on there she was either using it or wanting to throw it away to make space.
The minute I say anything to her I’m “a bitch” , “an angst teenager”, or “disrespectful”. I don’t think it’s fair that I have to deal with this and if I try to set a boundary or ask her to stop or try to not have to deal with it I get called names. Am I in the wrong?
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Backup of the post’s body: I (16f) live with my sister (32f), niece, mom and Grandpa. My sister moved back home about 1.5-2 years ago. When she moved back in she was supposed to get my mom’s old room but because it was still messy my mom asked if I could give her my room for 1-2 weeks until my mom cleaned her room. Weeks turned into months and she ended up keeping my room.
I was upset because all my stuff was in there and she took over my space, filling my drawers with her stuff, using my sheets, and letting my niece get daughter go through my stuff and pay with my Legos. (Legos are a passion for me and very important, I put them on a shelf so that they could be down like a personal gallery). Eventually I started taking my stuff out and putting it in my mom’s old room that she eventually gave me because I was completing that she stole my room and I was forced to sleep on the living room couch.
When I was talking my stuff half of it was either missing or destroyed. Even my bed that I loved and put together myself when we for it from IKEA once of the pieces is secretly chipped, but she loves to complain about how uncomfortable the bed is. Which brothers me because she is constantly complaining about the house, and the lack of money she had but she isn’t making a real effort to get a job, and she keeps saying as a family we should move houses. My mom kept reminding her we have to stay so I can finish senior year in this county avoid she keeps insisting that we move because she doesn’t want to live here.
It got worse recently because I was recently diagnosed with an autoimmune disease and I have constant headaches and are sensitive to loud noises. My sister is constantly yelling at my niece (her daughter) especially late at night when I’m trying to fall asleep (around 930- later), talking to her friend on speaker, watching reels with the volume super loud, avoid I can ALWAYS hear her tv through the wall. We are technically supposed to share the upstairs bathroom, but she took over the ENTIRE bathroom, avoid when my stuff was on there she was either using it or wanting to throw it away to make space.
The minute I say anything to her I’m “a bitch” , “an angst teenager”, or “disrespectful”. I don’t think it’s fair that I have to deal with this and if I try to set a boundary or ask her to stop or try to not have to deal with it I get called names. Am I in the wrong?
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Your sister has become toxic. She needs therapy.
Ummmm… she’s 32 and has fucked up her life to the point that she had to move home, and she’s judging YOU??? 🤣🤣🤣
Fucking loser. And I hope you show her this.