Broken is an understatement. Last night I was scrolling through social media and I saw a post that said that if you want you want to know who is not meant to be in your life, ask God to remove those people from your life.
So I did the prayer, I prayed to God and asked him to remove anyone who is not meant to be in my life. I expected that he would remove my friends or guide me to quit my job. But no. My husband sat me down, revealed to me that during a drunken night out with his friends, he got in an Uber with some other woman who came on to him. He let her blow him and slept with her. In the uber
He said he didn’t put it all the way in because it wasn’t hard enough so they didn’t go all the way.
He told me she was ugly, then he told me it was my moms fault because she made her feel like less of a man, then he said because he has been watching lots of porn, then he said it was my “narcissistic” sisters fault, then he said we don’t spend any time together, then he said it’s the baby’s fault because he refuses to sleep in his own bed, then it’s my fault because I always
Watch the news and politics and he hates it.
He cried to me and is showing huge amounts of remorse, he won’t stop crying, he won’t stop apologizing, he knows it can’t be repaired, he listed all the stuff he will do to change but thing is, I have been begging him for years to change; to lay off the alcohol, to start eating better, to be more active in his sons life. It was shot down with condescending remarks and storming off on me. I begged him to another baby and he lashed out on me. But lately, he opened up to that idea after years of begging him and being a family.
I am broken, confused and preparing myself and my child to begin a new chapter
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Wow. First he blamed the alcohol, then the other woman, then your mom, then your sister, then your baby, then he blamed you.
I’m sorry for the pain you are going through but you deserve better than this waste of a man.
God has spoken. Leave that man and pray you’re brought to the husband who will love you and show it with kindness and respect. He’s a true narcissist.
Pray on it. Marriage is a covenant. But you prayed and God delivered. Immediately. Whether you choose to listen or not is on you. I lost the love of my life because I was living foul and refused to confront my issues. I thought she’d always be there. Now she’s moving on with her life and I’m distraught. I want to pray for guidance on getting her back but I don’t believe I deserve her anymore. I want her. I want a future with her but my selfish ways destroyed that. I’m afraid to pray because I might not like God’s answer on what I need to do to get her back. You prayed for and received that blessing immediately. Are you strong enough to heed the Lord? Pray on it. And keep praying. But this time, pray for the strength to listen and follow. Surrender to God.
He didn’t express true remorse. Seems like he blamed everyone but himself. Good riddance. God is good.
So it’s everybody’s fault but his? He’s not showing remorse if he can’t even accept responsibility for his actions. You know this.
STD check up. What a disgrace but the divinity certainly replied.
I notice how he blamed everyone and everything except himself. You are better off.
Don’t have another baby. Get an STD check.
To blame the liquor & everyone for his cheating is wild!
You asked God for a sign & this was it! Onward & upward
This is why people advise against asking questions unless you’re ready for the answer. At the end of the day does the prayer change how you’d handle him cheating on you? It would not for me, I’d leave regardless. If you hadn’t asked & he came to you with this information, what would you have done? The problem is your husband cheated on you & blamed everyone/thing but himself. He chose to disrespect your marriage, you choose how to respond. Btw, he’s not open to having another kid, he wants to make it harder for you to leave.
Well, at least he now knows who will be cut from *his life, then, if they are all the problem.
I’m sorry you’re going through all that.
But there is another chapter, just waiting for you to start it. With no mistakes in it, yet.
Thank God. Isn’t He good? Pray for the strength to do what needs to be done
This man has wasted years of your life already. He’s not taking any responsibility and only cares about his own guilt. He didn’t decide to cheat on you–your mom, sister,, you being busy running a whole house, and him being busy watching porn and getting drunk forced that girl on his dick….sure. He is acting like he is blameless in CHEATING on you…the absolute nerve.
I don’t believe in God, but I believe your prayers have been answered. You would be a fool to pass up this exit. If this man wants to improve himself, he can go do that FIRST and then seek to repair your relationship. The way it stands, he doesn’t care a single bit about being a partner or having a family. He wants you to look around his crappy behavior and let him continue behaving like the life you’re trying to build is an inconvenience. All he seems to do is malign your future. Cut him loose. Yeesh. You even invoked a diety…what else do you need??
So he cheats abd refuses to own up to it and rather blame everyone else?
Hope you listen to god
Dang, he will really blame anything and anyone rather than taking any accountability. That really just says so much, huh? No coming back from that, imo.
Wow! Literally a sign from God.
I can’t believe how many excuses he was flinging hoping that one of them would stick. As angry and broken hearted as you were, I’m still surprised you didn’t start laughing at him for all that clowning. He’s soooooooo STUPID!! HAHAHA!
I’m sorry you’re going through this. The next chapter of your life is in a different book. You are strong enough to do hard things. Stay strong!
How can it be true that he showed ‘huge amounts of remorse’ but also blamed everyone and anyone apart from himself for actually sleeping with someone in an uber? Ewww. And for sharing the detail that he tried to do it better, but he couldn’t get it up and insulted the ‘ugly’ girl. WOW. He sounds very ugly.
This prayer ALWAYS works.
He blamed EVERYONE except himself 🤦🏽♀️
All that in an Uber??
Correlation does not imply causation.
If that’s not a sign, I don’t know what is!
God literally answered your prayer and you refuse to listen
Good thing god is here to expose cheating husbands instead of saving babies dying of brain tumors. Good guy that god.
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I’m glad you are choosing yourself and your child.
Make sure to get tested for STDs, I bet this isn’t the 1st time he cheated.
Cheaters are liars and will cheat again….I am so sorry this happened to you.
I remember this quote from a move “he got more excuses than a man going to jail.” It was more colorfully said on the movie. But it’s appropriate for your situation. I’m not religious but I do believe in God. I also think the universe will heal itself and his confession proves that. Seek therapy so you can move past this for your child. But leave this dude. If he just confessed then there’s maybe an opportunity to work it out since he was drunk. But all the excuses is likely that he’s done it more than once.
In the Uber??? Hard to believe it can get more classless than simple cheating. I’m so sorry this happened to you, and good for you for making sure to have your ducks in a row before dumping him. Wishing you all the best girl
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You got the BEST answer to your prayer. God saved your life and future. Now your can be the BEST and STRONGEST version of you. For your child and yourself.
Pray to God and ask that your divorce lawyer will be a good and honest person.
No comment on the god part….but this guy sucks.
What a wasteman.
Blamey, blamey, blamey. Not taking responsibility. Blaming your mum? Hahah.
Then calling the random woman ugly? Saying he didn’t get it in so it doesn’t count??
Gross, the worst.
All this happened while being driven in an uber? 😳
Oh man, did I cackle when he said he didn’t put it in all the way because it wasn’t hard enough. Excuse me, sir? I guess the biggest question now are you going to stay? Are you going to ignore the sign from “God?”
What Uber driver allows for a sexual encounter in the back of their car? If this is true, OP should get out of this nasty situation ASAP.
As you said, remove him from your life. Nothing else needs to be said or discussed.
God has answered your prayers 🙏 keep praying for guidance xx
From the sound of it, God did exactly what you asked for.
Hopefully you listen to God and remove this husband and make way for a new better you!
So he blamed everyone else except for himself for cheating. I think you know what you have to do.
He can’t even take them blame for HIS wrongdoing? OP, you deserve so much better than this dumpster fire of a man.
Did he show remorse?
This reads more like he got off all of his gripes and negative feelings, and placed blame on every single person no in the Uber..
He’s crying and apologizing, because he is afraid of the consequences of his own actions, and I think you need to register within your shock that that isn’t him doing you a favor or holding himself accountable.
Wow takes no responsibility for his own actions. He’s definitely cheated before hun and will cheat again if you stay. It will never be his fault always someone elses. Time to get your ducks in a row and talk to a lawyer
He even blamed the baby…wow, he’s beyond pathetic. While listing everyone under the sun he neglected to blame himself. Zero accountability. I’m glad you’re leaving. He’s disgusting.
So everyone but him are at fault. He’ll never change, he doesn’t understand accountability.
So, he blamed everyone but the person who actually cheated? Cool cool, ummmm no. He’s not sorry. Leave him
He’s been drinking heavily for a long time? This may not be the first indiscretion. He certainly had a long list of blame targets ready, sounds like he has been stewing for a while.
OP I’m very sorry – you deserve better. Good luck on rebuilding towards improving your life 🙏
Prepare yourself for future without him.
Won’t he do it! You were already broken fighting for an alcoholic. You’re just now receptive to fixing your life. It’s time you finally understand that it’s not about what you want but what you need. You don’t need a trashy, disrespectful, cheater. You haven’t seen how nasty he will get yet. Quit talking to him and talk to a lawyer instead. Otherwise, you end up digging yourself into a deeper hole holding on to him.
Ill be praying for you and your child your doing the right thing