When i get called out for spelling or grammar or anything like that, I pull the “english isn’t my first language card” knowing damn well it is.
“oh, lo siento, ingles no es mi primera idioma, thank you so much for explaining!” of course it gets people off my back about spelling and grammar without ANY back and forth, but also… sue me but i get a hell of a kick out of the backpedaling people do.
Not just then, either, but I’m autistic and often times I need clarity on tone or other things and people get annoyed by it, and I find that I get a better response when people think I need explanation for things because I’m a non-native speaker rather than because I’m autistic. Not 100% why that’s true, I can take a guess, maybe ableism, maybe commonness, maybe because I’m visibly hispanic but not “visibly” autistic, idk, but either way I definitely lie about which one is my first language depending on what makes me look best.
I do it the other way too when people make fun of my spanish but hey then im actually telling the truth lol