I pretend to be busy so I don’t have to hang out with anyone

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I don’t know when it started exactly, but lately I’ve been dodging invites from friends and family by saying I’m “swamped with work” or “super tired.” The truth is, I just don’t want to be around people. It’s not that I don’t care about them—I do. But being around others just drains me, and sometimes I feel like I’m only myself when I’m alone.

I guess I feel guilty about it, like I’m letting people down or being fake. But I also don’t want to explain myself because I’m tired of not being understood. So I keep making excuses, and honestly, it’s become second nature.

Just needed to get that off my chest.

Comments

  1. SkeptikalThoughtz Avatar

    I think you’re describing being introverted

  2. uncommongerbil Avatar

    I struggle between enjoying my limited time alone verses playing stupid games with people who never manage to pull their head out their ass as well

  3. Browndog888 Avatar

    Nothing wrong with that at all. I would rather spend an evening with my doggy than 98% of the people I know.

  4. connorsweeeney Avatar

    Get a dog if you don’t have one already
    Better than people

  5. RuthlessRemix Avatar

    I’m the same. I hate going out with people. I hate wasting money mainly but at work I’m the most out going person ever so they can’t understand it, I’m bored on my own all the time but cannot think of anything worse than going out and wasting money

  6. Funny-Man-33 Avatar

    Story of my life

  7. TheMoonKnight_ Avatar

    Yeah, I’m going down a similar road these days. Have become very selective who I want to hang out with or which party to go to.

    Even when I’m forced to go somewhere I’ll try to leave relatively early pretending I have some important work in the morning.

    I honestly only feel like hanging out with a few people. I just can’t make stupid small talk anymore. Most people these days, especially at parties, are just putting on some sort of an act which I just can’t give a damn about anymore.

  8. No-Region-2472 Avatar

    I do the EXACT same thing! Also don’t like phone calls anymore. No patience or interest, can’t even fake it, in the minutiae of other people’s lives. They don’t care about mine.

  9. Hot_Introduction3567 Avatar

    I do that too, but I do it mainly cause I think it wastes my time to hang out just for the sake of it

  10. hopeso569 Avatar

    Not uncommon at all. Don’t feel guilty, a lot of us are like this!