Well I just spilled my heart out to my friend. I’ve had a crush on him for a couple months. He is charming, fun, so friendly and caring. I truly love hanging out with him. I thought he felt the same way as I did, but it turns out he is asexual.
I’ll be okay. I gotta lick my wounds a little bit, and process, but I realize why I was/am so attracted to him. It’s because he sees me as a person, not as a means to sex, or as a mommy replacement. He just truly enjoys my company and sees me as his equal. It’s been SO refreshing. He isn’t even my type usually, but I found I was so into him and this must be why.
I don’t even know what the point of this post is, I guess I’m just processing my disappointment.
Sigh
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I’m sorry, but also: yay! Cool new friend!
As an ace guy, its nice to hear someone have this kind of reaction to an awkward situation. Best of luck finding a straight or bi guy that sees you the same way.
Is he aro as well as ace? If a non sexual romantic relationship is not a deal breaker for you, and he’s not aromantic, you could still see if he is interested in going on a date!
As an ace girl, it’s… its refreshing to see someone actually get it, rather than assuming im taking some crazy ‘high ground’ moral thingy. Sorry stuff didn’t work out :/
Hey, FYI ace is not an acronym and does not/shouldn’t be in all caps. It’s just a shortened form of asexual, which also is not in all caps.
But yeah this is definitely a thing I’ve seen. Once the constant sexual pressure is removed people can just vibe and it’s actually easier to build trust and form connections.
The fuq. I wish I had an ace guy friend
Give yourself a pat on the back. You are attracted to guys who are attracted to you as a person.
In this case, it wasn’t a romantic connection but wanting to be around people who like you for you is a very healthy emotional place to be.
Been there. It stings at first. I was lucky enough to remain friends with the guy because it wasn’t too awkward after the initial rejection. And it always nice to have a caring friend in your corner!
As someone who is ace, I don’t think it means he likes you any less, he just doesn’t want to have sex with you. Is that a big deal?
My partner is Ace, and we’ve been together for 16 years. I mean, it’s definitely doable.
But for some people, no sex or minimal sex with someone who isn’t super into it, is a deal-breaker.
Is he Aro/Ace or just Ace?
Because if he’s just Ace, and you’re cool with masturbation, it’s not actually stopping you from having a romantic relationship
Asexuality is a spectrum, and he sounds like a great guy
Yeah, thats exactly why I love my partner. Except he doesnt yet realize he’s ace 😅
This might be the signal to try hanging out with more guys who are normally “not your type”
You can still find an ace guy! There are plenty of fish in the sea, and not every ace person is aromantic, and some are interested in dating allosexuals.
Have you told him this? I would. I think he’d appreciate it, and having a frank conversation about it might help alleviate any awkwardness.