Hi all, 20f here. Yesterday, I reported my abusive ex-boyfriend (ex as of a month ago) to the police for multiple rapes. Last month, I got a SANE Exam done at the hospital, where I detailed a handful of times my ex raped and sexually assaulted me. I signed some forms in case I decided to report him to police. I was already pursuing a restraining order in civil court, and at the time, I thought a criminal case would be too much to deal with at the same time.
The restraining order was granted and for a couple weeks, I sat on the exam notes. But yesterday, I realized that if I don’t do it now, I’ll never do it and somewhere deep inside of me, I knew that I’d regret not doing it.
So I called the hospital and told them they can release the exam notes to the sheriff’s department. Now, the notes are sitting in an inbox, and I’m going to get a phone call once someone gets to read through them. They’ll want me to come to the station for an interview.
I try to hold myself together but I’m mostly scared. And more than anything, I’m sad. It’s like I’ve been asleep for so long and now I’m finally waking up, but it’s terrifying.
I’ve never done anything like this before. I’m so used to staying quiet and blaming myself. But I couldn’t do it anymore.
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Damn you’re brave
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And see if there are any rape/ abuse survivor groups in your area, or other means of support.
Regardless of the outcome, you are making a stand and reclaiming your power. Not easy, and it can take a while, but it does get better. 🤍
Make sure he won’t know your reddit user name.
At the very least make all social media private but ideally you probably want to suspend them for a bit.
I hope you are in a shelter for women where they don’t release the address. They can also give you tips of how to stay safe listen to them.
You have a lot to work on to heal you now. And I am glad you have that great book to start with. Get a therpist if you don’t have one.
Your brave and strong and it’s amazing what you have done. It’s a long road to recovery but you made one of the hardest steps there are.
I’m not sure where you’re located, but many sexual assault centres offer police/court support which could be helpful for you as you navigate this!
You should be very proud of yourself for reporting your abuser! This shows such incredible strength. Be kind to yourself and show yourself grace, and please try not to tie your healing to the outcome of your report.
Healing is always possible and is something you deserve. No matter what the police, courts, or anyone else decides regarding your case.